I am currently 5-1/2 months pregnant and not yet married (engaged). I work with a guy who is SUPER religious and may be something close to Mennonite. This person & I always got along great until he found out that I was pregnant. Now, he will not speak to me or even acknowledge my presence. It's making for very difficult working conditions. Has anyone ever experienced this? Why would someone who is a self-proclaimed uber-Christian be so judgmental and childish? What would cause someone to be so brainwashed?
2007-02-28 09:14:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
This is for "me".....I know for a fact that he is snubbing me due to his religious beliefs. He goes so far as to tell others his reasoning....I'm not just assuming all of this. Nothing is going over my head, sweetie, but I can't say the same for you.
2007-02-28 10:21:58 · update #1
Pay no mind to the above comment. Someone with a screen name of "me" insisted that I was assuming all of this, but quickly removed his or her answer.
2007-02-28 10:33:14 · update #2
First of all who is HE to judge? Secondly what business is it of his anyway and third because he is a Mennonite he thinks he is better than you or everyone else?
I commend you for being brave and keeping your baby God will take care of you.
Ignore him and if he chooses to "shun" you well that's his problem not yours.
Peace be with you.
2007-02-28 09:36:38 · answer #1 · answered by encourager4God 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to hear that yet another person who claims Christ would get it so wrong and make you feel bad. He who is without sin cast the first stone,John 8:7. That is self righteousness and judgment; Judge not lest you be judged, Luke 6:37. Perhaps he is hiding his own shame. I would ask him where is his love, Jesus loved the sinner. I hope that you will let other people acting so wrong to affect you. there are workplace laws if this affects the work place. I pray that the man you plan to marry treats you and your child in a Christ like manner. Good luck
PS please don't judge Jesus by what others say and do.
2007-02-28 09:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by mohayrix 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Meh. His loss. It's amazing how uber-religion of ANY kind causes some people to completely lose touch with basic common sense.
It sounds like he was a jerk to begin with and now his true colors are coming out. I can only imagine how hurt and puzzled you must be. Don't be. The fault lies entirely with him and his small-minded, closed-hearted attitude. How sad, that he can't even be glad for you. I actually feel a bit sorry for him.
If his idiocy is interfering with your ability to work, this needs to be brought to the attention of your boss. If he IS your boss, it's time to find another job or, as previously mentioned, talk to your union if you have one.
Congratulations on your pregnancy -- I wish you and your fiance the very best. :-)
2007-02-28 09:33:46 · answer #3 · answered by prairiecrow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are experiencing this. Unfortunately, being Christian doesn't necessarily make someone a nice, nonjudgmental person. For some it seems to have the opposite effect and make them very mean spirited, judgmental, hostile, and cruel. Unfortunately, your co-worker seems to fall into the latter category. Try to remember the fault lies in them not you. There is not much else you can do. I have experienced this with Christians who are extreme when they find out that I am not Christian and chose not to associate or speak with me. I just consider myself lucky that I am not that petty and close minded.
Best wishes to you with the new baby!
2007-02-28 09:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by Zen Pirate 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you do in your private life is your business. You are pregnant and that in itself is stressful enough. You don't need any more grief. Since this man's non-communication is affecting your working relationship - and if you need to interact with him, then you must speak to your supervisor/boss because his behavior is creating a hostile work environment.
By the way, don't judge all Christians by his behavior which is unkind, unloving and lacks compassion.
Hope you have a safe pregnancy and a healthy baby.
2007-02-28 09:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by javaqueen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's being so judgemental and childish because he's so Christian. That's how the religion works.
The Christians believe that to have sex out of wedlock is wrong somehow, but thay fail to even know the origins of it. If someone doesn't even understand their own religion, let alone they see fit to judge you based on somthing that's none of their business, I personally would just let them get lost.
He's likely not the type who would enrich your life any, if he won't even grow up a little.
2007-02-28 09:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by Vincent 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Very shameful on the part of your colleague. You can guess the reasons. Obviously he does not approve of sex before marriage.
It's his choice and has nothing to do with you. You are not here to live up to anyone's expectations but your own.
From now on behave as if nothing has happened, be civil and ignore the rest. May you have a wonderful pregnancy and a beautiful baby.
2007-02-28 09:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by Freddy F 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a conversation you need to talk to your boss about, quickly. Being at work is work related only time. Professional business time.
Your boss should already have given the lecture and training to handle this issue. I sat through this training at every company I have been with.
I am sorry - but please talk to your boss soon.
You need peace during your pregnancy, not trouble.
2007-02-28 12:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what what a person with a Dark-Ages mentality thinks? Mennonites think women need to wear bonnets to be considered virtuous.
2007-02-28 09:20:06 · answer #9 · answered by JP 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the finger and live your life. That maggoty piece of a turd has no right to judge ANYONE.
"Why would someone who is a self-proclaimed uber-Christian be so judgmental and childish?"
That question answers itself, baby.
PS: Congratulations on your baby!!!
Have you got a name for your baby yet?
Take care.
2007-02-28 09:18:18 · answer #10 · answered by Wellhung Atheist 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋