Does anyone have a ideas how i can prepare my son for the new baby he is already very jealous when his father or i hold or play with his cousin. I just dont want him to feel like he is getting replaced or for him to blame the new baby and be mean....So anyone have any ideas???
2007-02-28 09:07:14 · 9 answers · asked by Loveable05 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you are expecting in October then you have plenty of time for your son to get used to the idea of another child. At that age, your son may not fully understand, since he is the center of attention.
You just have to keep him aware of what is happening all the way
up until you deliver. Try showing him a children's show where there are siblings. Try reading him books about new members of the family. I believe there are some good book readilly available out there for new arrivals. I would expect some jealousy, but you
can get a head start by talking to him about it now. I hope that helps.
"When planning or expecting another child, prepare your other children for the new arrival before the birth. Share books about babies and allow your children to join in the preparations and possibly the delivery. Hospitals often have sibling preparation programs for children. Communicate that the baby will belong to the whole family, not just to Mom and Dad."
This comes from a child stress website.
Again, hope it helps you.
2007-02-28 09:18:33 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was 17 months old when I got pregnant with my second. What I found to work was preparing her for what is going to happen. I would talk to her all the time about the new baby and let her feel my stomach as it grew and tell her the baby is in there. We also watched Sesame Street which frequently talks about family and bothers and sisters and would tell her that she is going to be the big sister. I let her come with to a few of my dr. apts. so she could hear the heart beat. She really enjoyed this. Our son is almost 5 months old now and there has been no problem with jealousy. Just keep talking to your son about what is happening and try to involve him as much as possible. I was worried that there would be problems too, but everything has been going great. After the baby comes, let him help you by handing you a diaper for the baby or have him help you put the blanket on the baby and little things like that. They feel very important and make sure you tell him how helpful he is and that he is a good big brother. Now that my son is starting to play with toys when he drops them or the blanket slips off, my daughter automatically goes and picks the things up for him. It is amazing what good little helpers they are.
2007-02-28 09:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by sooz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not "we" excluding your son who are having a baby. It is your family.
Everything to do with the pregnancy, preparation, arrival and care of the baby is important to the whole family. Make sure your son participates as part of the team all the way through, and you'll be fine. Create happiness and excitement and you will receive it. Create concern and doubts and you will receive them.
My daughter was 17 months old when my first son was born, and she could hardly wait for "our baby" to come. Then both of them were this way with the third. It was fun.
2007-02-28 09:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Begin preparing him now. Include him in your pregnancy by allowing him to feel his new sibling kick against your belly, talk, sing, and read to the baby, and whatever else may get him excited about his new sibling. Encourage him to anticipate the arrival of the baby. After the baby is born, allow him to help you by handing you a diaper or wipes from time to time to include him in caring for the baby. He won't feel left out if he is contributing to your efforts of care and is not being ignored. Teach him to play properly with a small child and let the fun begin. I'm sure he'll love having his new brother/sister around.
2007-02-28 09:19:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him be a big part of the event! Let him interact.
When you are holding his cousin ask if he would like to sit next to you and hold the baby's feet or help because the blanket is coming loose (even if it isnt).
There are Big Brother classes that you can take that help you with this exact situation.
2007-02-28 09:22:13 · answer #5 · answered by Andrea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now he is a too young to completely understand what's going on, especially since there probably isn't any big changes in your abdomen right now. As you get closer to your due date and your belly changes you can talk to him about what's going on with you. A baby doll for him may help. This way he can get used to "practicing" for another little one to come. Again I would wait a little longer. He is going to grow remarkably these next few months too, his receptive and expressive language continue to grow during this time.
2007-02-28 11:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by krispeds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 20:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let them play together and treat them equal. let him learn how to hold his baby bro or sis and just hang in there. don't worry about it.
2007-02-28 09:12:02 · answer #8 · answered by mrs garfield 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i always focused on how she was a "big sister" ...mine were 13 months apart and now they are grown and it was a great experience raising them
2007-02-28 11:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by cherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋