I´m in nervous. I don't know what to do. I like a boy, I know him two years but only in net. But now we decide to meet. We live in differents states, I decided go there to visit him, because he doesn´t have money to visit me. But now I´m very confused, because I love him and he says the same, but even this I´m very anxious about this meeting cause I´m afraid that he doesn´t like me, cause I´m fat, ugly, "my hair and my clothes don´t like me", and I´m afraid that he laught me. I´m very complex person, i don´t know what to do, help me please.
2007-02-28 08:57:09 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We share Photos, but I passed my best photos and only facial photos, not of my body.
2007-02-28 09:08:09 · update #1
Go and hold your head up high to be proud of who and what you are. Know you are the best thing that could ever happen to him in the way of a girlfriend or any thing else. It doesn't matter if he ends up not liking you for what is on the outside, because you ARE terrific anyway. If he doesn't like what he sees, so what! His superficial outlook makes him second rate and not worth having your time. But I just bet he'll like you anyway. You are worrying over nothing. Dig in there and find your confidence, girl! Don't be scared of your own beauty! Just remember you R all that! :)
2007-02-28 09:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're nuts. You can't go across the country to visit some guy you don't even know. You'll end up in pieces in his crawlspace. If he can't come visit you, then cancel this thing right now. If you haven't sent photos to each other, REAL photos and not pics of someone else, then do so first. Find out everything you can about this guy, do a background check (pay the 12 bucks on the internet). For all you know, he could be a serial killer. And if you're worried that "your hair and clothes don't like you", imagine what might happen when a serial killer doesn't like you. Kill this idea right now.
2007-02-28 17:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Slow now, your going to visit a guy who has not seen a full photo of you? Or you of him? Who says your fat and ugly? YOU? If you two have NOT traded photo's, I say you better do that first. I hope you both have been very honest with each other about everything, because if you haven't you are just wasting your money. As for how you feel about yourself, it sounds like you have issues. Those are pretty heavy duty statements to say about oneself. Have you thought about seeking therapy? Sounds to me you may need some for awhile. Being a bit panicked about meeting someone is one thing, but getting that down about yourself is another. If I were you, I would definitely wait on the visit until you felt more secure about things. Try to seek some help, your worth it!
2007-02-28 17:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In 2 years have you shared pics? I would suggest that you be careful because you can be anybody you want to be on the net. Look at 20/20. As for your self confidence just look in the mirror and everyday say to it I Love You. Lot's of luck and be sure that someone knows where you are.
2007-02-28 17:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says he loves you, what you look like shouldn't matter. However, if you want to feel good about yourself. Take a spa day and get your hair done, a facial, manicure, peticure, massage, whatever! If you feel good about yourself, you'll be more confident. Also, when you go to a store, have a salesperson help you try on clothes. If you don't like it, be honest and have them find different clothes. Make sure that you find clothes that really fit your body type, not ones that fit how you wished you looked. If you find clothes that really flatter your body type, you'll look great!!!!!
2007-02-28 17:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't anyone ever watch Dateline? From the sound of this question you seem very young, " I like a boy", while most women would say man, or gentleman.
So if you are of age, I suggest that you not spend your hard earned cash going to visit some guy who can't afford to pay his share. If he really was a catch he would offer to pay for you to visit. If you are not of age, please reconsider the dangerous situation you are putting yourself in.
2007-02-28 17:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by Ceremony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gather your photo showing isnt you. First of all before you agree to meet him you should send him a photo of you, probably a full body shot. If he still wants to meet you then why are you so afraid? I wouldnt surprise anyone without a photo, so I can imagine anyone would be afraid to just be a blind arrival. So send the photo prior to meeting for sure.
2007-02-28 17:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok. now im confussed. How can you be in love with someone you have never met? Chatting on line one can say anything just to get the reaction they r looking for. You havent told him what you really look like so you know what im saying.
dont waist your time in a computer love. Find a real person who will love you for being you. looks dont matter. its whats inside that counts. Good Luck 2 U
2007-02-28 17:10:29 · answer #8 · answered by Lourdes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could be dangerous for you! This could be somebody that preys on lonely girls like yourself......bring a friend with you and meet in a public place if you must do this....
As far as the appearance thing........did it ever occur to you that he is probably not a looker either or that maybe you are being a little too hard on yourself?
2007-02-28 17:03:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DONT visit him first...always let a guy visit you first...these are rules of dating long distance....
good luck!
2007-02-28 17:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by deliah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋