One of my best guy friends, let’s say his name is John, likes me. He is pretty cute, and a GREAT guy and friend. I’m just afraid that when we are bf/gf it won’t be the same. Like maybe, he’ll treat me differently and be all shy. And if we break up, we won’t be friends again. I love him so much as a friend that I don’t know if I can see him being my new boyfriend. I don’t know what I should do!?!?! Should I tell him I just want to be friends with benefits or turn him down or go out with him?!?!?!? HELP PLZ!!!!
Thank you!!!!
2007-02-28 08:55:03 · 17 answers · asked by Argiiii. 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 42 yrs old....this may be your soul mate. You never know until you try.I would just talk to him and ask him if we try this and it doesnt work out....can we always promise to stay the way we are...
2007-02-28 09:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by bikerbabe_64 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow something i can really relate too. Well me and my boyfriend now well i should say fiancee, been friends for 5 years. I mean he was there for me thru ups and downs. He was there when i had my daughter because her dad wasn't and he knew that her dad was doing me wrong.
Last year he confessed to me that he had feeling for me. And yes like you was a little confused i didn't want to ruin the friendship. But after some hard thinking i said "what if he's the one" so I gave it a try.
Needless to say we are together still. We still talk like we use to the only difference is that we sleep together.
If you are willing to have him as a bed buddy you can give it a try. Just have faith everything will work it's self out!
2007-02-28 09:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Miss Self-Sufficient 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you turn him down he might get hurt. If a girl turned me down I would think she thought I was unattractive and not interested in me. From a guys point of view, if you really like him you should go out with him and take the risk. Life is not any fun if you don't take risks. So what if you become bf/gf then break up, it happens all the time. You will have a great memory of the relationship to remember for the rest of your life. Who knows you may never break up with him, you never know.
2007-02-28 09:00:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should wait for a bit since you jusy got out of a relationship. Its hard once you get back into one. I know that you want to be friends with a guy with Benefits, but there is so much involved when you do that.
And you are also taking a risk with the friend ship and other things.
But if you want, think about it, and make up your mind. You can date him, have benefits as being friends...whatever you want, its your choice and his choice, no one can stop you.
2007-03-01 00:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you can really love a person of the opposite sex, but it is a friendship love|
I would not force anything more if it is not natural to do so|
Definitely do not spoil that friendship love|
If you are really meant to get together with someone in the romantic sense, you would know, because you would be madly in love with the person, and you would know that you would be dissatisfied being only friends|
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2007-02-28 09:01:53 · answer #5 · answered by Catholic Philosopher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't not go out with him because your morals are in the way. OK that sounds pretty bad but if you really like the guy then I would go for it. Don't go out with him because you feel pressured to and if you just think it might be too weird or if you don't like him that way then just say you're afraid it would affect your friendship or something like that.
2007-02-28 08:58:45 · answer #6 · answered by figglepie123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to ask lets call him John......do you want him as a boyfriend? or would you rather have him as an ever lasting friend? its not good to date friends...most of the time it does not work out. Stick to the relationship you know best(friendship)
2007-02-28 08:59:26 · answer #7 · answered by alwaysmoody7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey...u know a lot about him...i don't tink if u break-up wit him u won't be bffs(or the oter way around)...i don't tink it will change a whole lot...because 1 of my bffs(girl) dated another of our bffs(boy) and it didn't change very much...she broke up wit him and he waz sad 4 a bit but after tat everyting waz back 2 normal...if tings dot work out then tell him, at the beginning, tat u wanna be friends even if it doesn't work out...but dot make tat sound like ur gonna break up...GOOD LUCK...
2007-02-28 09:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by sweet cherry girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go 4 it. Best friends make the best boyfriends, you dont have to get 2 know eachother.
2007-02-28 08:59:32 · answer #9 · answered by Lourdes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should be friends with him or at least talk to him about it....it'll be the best because if u go out and it turns out 2 be awkward...then it might break up ur friendship.
2007-02-28 08:59:14 · answer #10 · answered by bunnyhopper1316 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋