I met this girl a while ago, she was cousins with a friend of mine. Right off the bat we were together. But the problem was that she lived/lives far away from me, so the relationship didn't last. But she was absolutely amazing. I don't know how else to describe it, she just was. I never thought I'd meet a girl like her, and when I did, I was ecstatic, hence trying to make it work. But, distance took its toll on us, and we had to stop trying to see each other because it was too hard to keep up.
Now, some time later, I find myself kind of unable to really feel the same way again, or even get into a relationship at all without comparing the new girl to the one from before. I'm not sweating it, I know I can't be with her and it sucks, but whatever I'm dealing and moving on. But, I still compare women to her, and it sucks because these are great girls on their own and don't deserve to be compared to someone they...
2007-02-28 08:45:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
... don't even know. So, I guess my question is, how do I stop this? I want to be able to get her out of my head, and try to have a healthy relationship with another girl. I just don't know how to go about doing this...
Thanks for listening, and I appreciate your answers.
2007-02-28 08:46:31 · update #1
With school and my job, and certain personal (family) things happening, I couldn't move. And she has told me that she can't move either.
As sh*tty as it is, I don't think moving is currently an option. Maybe sometime in the future, but right now, it just doesn't work.
2007-02-28 11:03:57 · update #2
I lived the same story you are describing in 1998.
Since then, I've gone through many disapointments and always compared the men I met to my impossible love...until I met another fantastic person less than a year ago, who is sooo amazing it makes anyone else seem dull. It happened when I least expected so and I'm having a great time having him in my life now.
My old friend/love is still my friend and will always mean the world to me. He is magnificent and I'm just glad I was able to spend the short time we did together and 11 years of long-distance friendship that go on.
All I can say is give time some time. Take some time by yourself. It's always good to stop and improve ourselves by meditation and reflection. Continue socializing with other girls and give them their fair chance, eventually one will come that will turn your world upside down again!
2007-02-28 08:55:30 · answer #1 · answered by Brujita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seem that you still have feels for this girl and you should try and work out what ever feels you might still have for her. Also think you should try not get involved with anyone for the time been. It some girl do like to be compare to other girl... Just like the guys don't. Hope i help...Good Luck
2007-02-28 16:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by Mel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like you need to try to be single anyway for a while. i sense a little confusion and a lot going on in your head. stop and figure things out for yourself for a while. make yourself happy and learn to move on. eventually she will be off your mind and you should e able to carry on a healthy relationship with another. but dont get into something if you arent ready because you are still thinking of someone else. feelings arent to be played with and it just wouldn't be fair if you weren't serious about it. if you were just using a girl to try and get yourself over the other one. make sure you are ready. good luck.
2007-02-28 16:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never stop. You'll always have that past connection to this girl. Just with the new girls focus on the ways they meet or exceed her. Make the focus them and not her. Its not unfair, every woman compares every man to her first love.
2007-02-28 16:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How far away does she live? If she really meant that much why do you HAVE TO get over her??!! nothing bad happened between you (ie cheating?) so why not move?
2007-02-28 16:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by kimmy_717 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not like to be compared with others and most certaintly my other half will not appreciated either.
Think of it this way, would you like to be compared with other guys? Your girl unknowingly compares you with her ex-bfs. Think about it for a minute..............
2007-02-28 16:55:18 · answer #6 · answered by Victoria78 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IF SHE MEANT THAT MUCH TO YOU, WHY CAN'T YOU MOVE TO BE NEAR HER?
2007-02-28 16:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by sweetbabykitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋