I'm really worried about my best friend. She's 5'4"ish and weighs like 90lbs.
She used to be a little overweight but she really wasn't too bad. But ever since the guy she liked told her she was not "good enough" for her, she totally flipped out and started saying how she was going to go anorexic. I didn't think much of it because we used to kid around a lot. Well, since she first decided to lose weight, she's lost apx. 30lbs and she's not stopping. She's become obsessed with her weight. She hasn't been eating, she's been having people buy her diet pills, she's exercising like crazy, and she's always saying how "fat" she is...
I just recently did some research on anorexia and I found out that she's well into this disease. I'm also afraid that she might be throwing up too, because her mom has asked me and sometimes she'll just leave to go to the bathroom when no one pays attn.
Now that I know what can happen, I'm really scared for her. Is there anything I can do without upsetting her?
2007-02-28 08:45:20 · 7 answers · asked by Dani B 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
You are a good friend to be so concerned about your friend, and rightfully so.It does appear that your friend could very well be in the advanced stages of anorexia. It was very intuitive, and smart for you to research the medical background on this eating disorder. If you can, show her mom the information,print it out, from your computer, or copy it.To see the DANGEROUS, sometimes FATAL affects that could very well happen. If your friends mom, sees the material in BLACK & WHITE, She will see that her daughters life is in immediate danger, and see that medical intervention is nesecary NOW. I would not worry about your friend being upset with you. You will be saving her life, and I know that for certain. Please tell your mom or some adult, if your friends mom does not take action immediately. It will be a lot harder for your friends moms to carry the guilt around, if something tragic were to happen to her daughter, and she did nothing. You are a true blessing!.
2007-02-28 09:16:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, she is using all these measures to lose weight, but she is depriving her body and brain of nourishment that can effect her learning abilities. True beauty is intelligence, self confidence and personality. Most guys in school look at the outer immage because they do not understand the value of true beauty. They do not live in the real work with real jobs and understand that education and intelligence goes so much further than looks. There are still guys that will think looks are most importaint when you're older, but many of them are looking for an intelligent, self confident woman. Ask your friend if the most unattractive guy in the school told her she should cut her hair because it was ugly, would she do it? If she wouldn't change for the unatractive guy, why for the guy that she likes? I am assuming she has a lot of life left and she will like many more guys along the way, is she going to change for every guy that she likes? How exausting. Tell her to be her beautiful self and put more emphasis on her grades, personality and thigs that represent her. No guy is worth changing over. I am sure that there are guys that like her, but they are not "good enough" for her. What if the way she is feeling is the same way she has made some other guy feel? What if a guy that likes her is practically killing himself to look a certain way for her, but she will never give him the time of day? Is it worth it? When it comes to this situation, if you are a real friend you will not care if she is upset with you. You should ask her these questions and be tuff with her. I am sure she confides in you more than her parents and you may have more of an effect on her because she trusts you. Would you rather risk her being upset or would you rather see her die? It is good if she gets upset and let her know that you are upset at her for changing the friend you once knew, that you love her and want to have fun again and you dont want to lose your friend.
2007-03-08 04:57:41 · answer #2 · answered by Chrys23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to deal with this kind of situation is to sit down and have a nice talk with your friend. Tell her how you and her family are concerned about her and that she must share her feelings with you as to what's really going through her mind. Reassure her that she's been a good friend and deserves to be loved and that you are there for her and offer to accompany her to a visit to the doctor. Also tell her how pretty she is and so mustn't let her life go to waste because of one person's opinion.
Maybe she's embarrassed to seek help or thinks that people will mock her more if it comes out in the open. I'm sure once you start talking to her she'll open up and then you can decide what's the next step (i-e if she needs to go for consultation).
2007-02-28 17:14:41 · answer #3 · answered by coolmarine 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest an intervention between you and her family would be a good suggestion. Once going through that myself in high school it is a diesease of ignorance; trust me she will not believe you listen to you etc... be prepared and honestly if she gets defensive or suggest's that you are just jeoulous don't take it to heart. Perhaps some medical attention is required. Good luck to you and your friend and you are a great person for caring so much about your friend.
2007-02-28 16:54:49 · answer #4 · answered by pattiof 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell her mother first then ask at medicial clinic what is best course of action to take. also tell every one not to buy her pills for her. to hell with her feelings some time you have to be nasty to be kind. sorry I cant help much more than that
2007-03-07 06:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by works 4 me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If helping her means upsetting her now... she can only thank you in the long run!
2007-02-28 16:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her parents about it. They should deal with it, not you. It's their child, and, though you care about her, saying something to her could only worsen your relationship. I think this is a job for her parents.
2007-02-28 16:55:41 · answer #7 · answered by bay 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋