I have been on and off again with a guy who is best described as a FWB for 6 years. Lately, he has been calling me his girlfriend, telling me he loves me, and wanting to hang out more and more often. I'm not sure what his agenda is, as he doesn't need to butter me up for sex or anything. He even wanted to hang out on Valentine's day. I rarely call or bother him, and all we have in common is great sex (we get along too).
The thing is, I am too old to get ridiculous and *fall* for this guy, and I wonder why he has gone from being a total playboy type guy to trying so hard to woo me. I think part of it may be pride, that I broke up with him 4 years ago when I met my (then) future husband (we have since divorced), and he doesn't understand why I went off and got married to the other guy.
I would like to believe he is sincere, but part of me just can't. How can I tell if he is sincere? Its just hard for me to believe he has suddenly developed all of these deep feelings for me.
2007-02-28 08:28:15 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for the responses. I'm in my early 30s. I guess it doesn't really matter, but I don't like having my feelings jerked around. I'd just as soon keep up my usual shield with him if it is just about sex. If he wants more (truly wants more that is) then we can discuss that, but I don't want to make myself emotionally vulnerable to him if he is just playing around. Because I am fine with things being non-emotional and casual, as long as we stick to those ground rules.
2007-02-28 08:42:29 · update #1
I think your additional statement says it all. I wish that my FWB would have done a 360 like it appears yours has (but he was/is 10 years younger than me and it truly was about GREAT sex). But I also fell very much in love with him and would have gladly risked everything to be with him...at that time. The thing is, you may never really know this guys true agenda - it's hard when a leopard suddenly changes his spots. With that sad, this is not wild kingdom and your true feelings are involved. The only way to know for sure is to let down your guard and that my friend will definitely leave you vulnerable. You have to ask yourself if it's worth the risk. My gutt feeling says no. At 30 (I'm 36) I don't think it's a risk that I personally would take, I can't afford anymore heartbreak this late in life. But you have to do what's best for YOU. Good luck.
2007-02-28 08:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi M. I am 38 ok so i am not young boy just to let you know. I would be the same way as you are.Really just look and listen then you will know. Ask some questions but in a very easy not asking way.If you to love sex together that is great. But you are better than this.You are a very good woman and you may want more in life than just a friend and sex partner.Watch your heart and your soul. You gave a high self worth and do not sell if short of what you want.People do not change from what they know works best for them.They will always go back to it. If he was a playboy then and now wants to be serious.Watch out.We change because we want to for ourselves not for anyone person.but you know this.RAY
2007-02-28 08:36:33 · answer #2 · answered by ????????????????????? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well this is quite the question!If i were you I would be very blunt and ask him what's up??If you are not going to let yourself fall for him despite his intentions then you need to make it clear that all you guys had is the good sex but not much of n/e thing else so you either want it to be this way or you don't.Whether you are both able to experience the relationship part of a ''normal'' beginning with all the other stuff it takes besides the sex might be weird but if you both want it-truly genuinely want it then go for it but you need to talk to him and trust in him or don't.
2007-02-28 08:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by Damien GOTTI 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are too old to fall for him then I don't see what it matters if he is sincere or not. It's not like he is proposing marriage or anything. He is enjoying your sex and companionship.
2007-02-28 08:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow... All I can say is that if he is true, he will give you the space you need to realize what he has in his heart... Don't get blinded, but don't push him away... Sometimes love is better the second time around!!!!! Good Luck!!!
2007-02-28 08:38:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
the sex r u good at sex
2007-02-28 08:33:01 · answer #6 · answered by fuzzpup96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all sex
2007-02-28 08:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by bigfree_2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might not know but he is probaly a pervert and probaly in it for sex and how old are you?
2007-02-28 08:34:14 · answer #8 · answered by alexashasta11 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋