what do you think of a person who is completely devoted to christianity, even if it puts many limits on a relationship, if they put God before the relationship, and if they end a relationship because it got in the way of your spiritual connection with God?
in an unmarried relationship
2007-02-28 08:23:53 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im not in this kind of relationship, just wndering overall
2007-02-28 08:41:51 · update #1
you two obviously aren't compatible if your beliefs clash so much that the relationship has to end.
2007-02-28 08:27:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you replace God and Christianity here with "personal beliefs", then you're saying that the person ended the relationship because it got in the way of personal beliefs. People are entitled to their beliefs -- even though other people may not agree. I can't say that someone who ends a good relationship because of restrictive beliefs is wrong or narrow minded, since everyone ultimately chooses their partner based on personal beliefs of some kind or another. It's no different and probably a lot more sensible than someone choosing a partner based on hair color, height or a sense of humor.
This happens all the time. A vegan doesn't want to commit to someone who eats meat, a Democrat won't marry a Republican, a virgin won't have sex because she (or he) is saving themselves for marriage, a nonsmoker won't go out with a smoker, etc. In each of these cases, the bottom line is that the person ending the relationship is saying that this doesn't feel right for me.
The other person might claim that the belief system is less important than the opportunity for a good relationship -- but the person ending the relationship appears to thinks that being in a relationship requires agreement on the belief system. This might be a battle over value systems (do it my way because your beliefs aren't as important as mine). Ultimately, if the person ending the relationship isn't willing to forego some beliefs and the other person can't accept the limits, I'd say that each person ought to look elsewhere for a better match.
2007-02-28 08:55:31 · answer #2 · answered by Neonzeus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, frankly, it sounds like someone who has a strong code of ethics, and values themselves highly. This is a good thing.
I know we live in a world today where everyone puts their wants needs and desires first. Sleep with whomever you want, and gratify the senses with food, alcohol and drugs.
But this person sounds like a well grounded individual. A real Christian. If you were having a friendship with this person and he/she broke it off with you because it got in the way of their spiritual connection to God, maybe you should investigate this further.
If you really cared for this person, then it would behove you to tell them you want to find out more about their beliefs. Ask to attend church with them, and when you go, go with an open mind. Maybe you might find something that is missing in your life.
This person sounds like a quality person, not just your average person. There is nothing wrong with abstaining from a sexual relationship until after marriage. I know it is unheard of in this day and age, but don't believe everything you see on tv. It all depends on how much this person means to you.
2007-02-28 08:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by romeoshannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard when one person is religious and the other is not. I am not AT ALL religious, nor do I ever wish to be.
I think that its a bummer that this person would put religion above all. Maybe they should move to a convent and become a nun . . .
I knew a girl who broke up with her boyfriend of 2 years because "god told her to do it" I say, sorry, lame excuse.
They will be disappointed when they realize that all their life they put god and religion first. . . and there will be nothing in the end. I don't exactly believe in a heaven or a hell. I think that once you are gone, thats it, no more, you are gone. Technically, everyone goes to hell anyway, if you think about it . . . Everyone that is not cremated is buried down below . . .
2007-02-28 08:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would be the type of person that I would want because if they put God first in their lives, then they would no doubt have the values that I would want in a person. I am sure that there are limits on the relationship only because of how Society dictates how we should live. I think that it is great that a person in times that we are living in can believe in something solid and honorable such as God.
2007-02-28 08:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have different values. If someone wants to put God before every thing, that is fine, it is their belief and it isn't hurting anyone. It is a matter of finding someone you are compatible with. It sounds like this is something you are not interested in so, in this case, you should end the relationship.
2007-02-28 08:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that person is doing what the bible says to do, honor God before all, with all your heart. The Bible says it's best not to marry so you can put all your time and energies towards doing God's work, thereby honoring Him. However if you are going to burn with lust; then it is better to marry. God never tells anyone not to marry. If you don't share the same beliefs he should not be dating you.
Christians should seek to pray daily, read our bibles daily, also seek and save the lost, by our witness.
If you were the wife; that Christian is commanded to lead and protect you, to be faithful and commited to the marriage. If you are the husband; she is commanded to honor and obey you in all things. [not sinful things like lying for you, etc.]
That Christian may love you but yes, Christianity [following Jesus] comes first. Although many today want to compromise and be worldly, however they cannot serve both God and mammon. Life is about God.
2007-02-28 08:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then that person is looking for someone else. That person needs to find a person that has the same spiritual connection with God as they do.
2007-02-28 08:27:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that this person needs to date only someone who shares those very defining and limiting beliefs. Otherwise seems the relationship would be doomed from the start.
Personally I would not date someone with those beliefs.......I rather enjoy having fun in life and all those restrictions don't sound like much fun.
....but to each his own.
....no judgement here.
2007-02-28 08:32:09 · answer #9 · answered by Janet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would hel pif you shared the same faith. The same beliefs. With the same beliefs very few problems would come up. With the same religion you would have the same beliefs about marriage, how to lead yuor lifes. Some people only want to marry in their own Religion. If you know this ahead of time you can either choose their Religion or find another with similiar beieves.
2007-02-28 08:30:20 · answer #10 · answered by roundman84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person who was sincere in their beliefs and put God first in their life would follow the commandments. That means you could expect sincerity, honesty, faithfulness, and being cherished. As long as they actually behaved like a child of god and displayed the character traits one would expect of a christian, I think it would be a good thing.
2007-02-28 08:28:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋