My friend is pregnant now i know she cheated on me, i dont wanna stay with her, i feel dyeing, plz help..?

Question

My GF is pregnant and now i came to know she cheated on me, the kid id definately mine, but i dont wanna marry her. She told me she will sue me, i have to pay whole life 33% of what i earn. She will drang me in court.

I am international student and does not elong to usa, i am from poor family and have lots of loan to pay, if my parents will know all that they will die, i need money to pay my loans and home and to feed my family, but she said she will take my all money and tell my parents and drag me in court.

What should i do, i feel like commiting sueside, i dont see any option if anyone in my family knows this they will also die, i am already poor and under debt, she cheated on me i cannot even accept her, the kid is mine, what should i do

Answer 1

First cowboy the F*ck up!

You think you are the first guy who has ever been cheated on by somebody. Trust me you are not.

Guess what you are not going to die from this. Kids are expensive sure but people have them everyday, you can totally find a way to support the child.

Will your family be mad, sure. They might yell and scream, but then once it is over they probably be supportive. They won't die.

Look if the kid is your's you have to support it, that's what a man does. Yeah it will cost you money, and you might have to put some of your dreams on hold for awhile but you have something much more important to think about. The kid comes first.

So stop feeling sorry for yourself and acting like a wining little p*ssy. Time to man the F*ck up.

Answer 2

First off you don't know for sure the kid is yours, if she cheated once then you can bet it was problem not the first time, so you don't know for sure it is yours, so you need right now to stop saying the kid is yours. It may or may not be, you need to get a DNA test. and if it is not yours then count your blessings and get the hell away from her, now if it is yours you need to step up and be the man you were when you stuck your d ick in her, she didn't get pregnant by herself, if the baby is yours you need to help support the baby not only with money but with your time, a child needs a father, don't be a dead beat dad, in the long run it could be the best thing in your life, child support will be determined by the court and it will be based on how much you make, and you only need to pay for child support till they are 18 years old. or if your a international student, I guess you could go back to where you come from, just run away and hide, just like a lot of guys do these days.

Answer 3

Look, the kid is yours, and you're going to have to take care of it, in some way or another, until he/she is 18. You got noone to blame but yourself for that one.

Now, before you go any further, with *anything*, did she confess that she cheated? Until she confesses, or you've com to believe her, there's no way to be certain. But let's just assume she did; what are your feelings towards her? If your *only* concern is about your money and what people will think, then I can just tell you, I would kick the sh*t out of you if I ever met you in real life.

Forget your parents' they're not relevant in any way to your current situation. Do you have feelings for this girl, or does she have feelings for you? I frown upon people who cheat, but if you love her, and she loves you, then, albeit hesitantly, I advise you to try and forgive her. Now, if you two don't want to work it out (which may be difficult, but still possible), then you two need to work out an agreement.

There's a lot of details which we are unaware, so I'll leave your relationship, and what you choose to do with it, alone. After that's been sorted out, *then* make arrangements for the child. If you don't want to spend any time with the child, then you're gonna be stuck paying; no point in hoping otherwise. However, if you choose to be a *real* father, then you may be able to slide, or at least get a much smaller charge. Being a father isn't going to be easy, but if life always went according to plan, then we would all be Bill Gates.

I truly hope you and your girlfriend will be able to work things out. You're going to go through a lot of sh*t in life, but if there is Love between you two, then work through ithe hard times as best you can. But I really hope you develope a relationship with your child. It's inconveniant, and you and you girlfriend may end on bad terms, but that's no excuse to being a poor father. Like my grandfather used to say, "The only thing you need to spend on love, is time."

Answer 4

Tell her to get an dna test if she wants to take you to court,to prove that the baby is yours.The fact that she cheated on you leaves a small doubt that the baby might not be yours.If anything it gives you time to decide how to handle the situation.If she doesn't want to get the test done,then maybe she has something to hide.You have a right to know the truth.And if it is yours then I suggest you come to some kind of agreement with her on how to take care of the baby,you don't have to stay with her just to take care of the baby,just try and do the right thing for the baby.She is just telling you all this stuff because you don't know your rights and don't know how to deal with the situation.But shock her and ask for the test,you'll know what to do after whatever reaction you get from her.And tell her if she takes you to court,you will tell them she cheated on you and you want to make sure the babys yours,she may rethink some things Good luck

Answer 5

You really need professional counseling. Really. There is definitely an emotional problem going on with you. Let me say first off, your feelings are validated. You feel how you feel. However, nothing or no one is worth you taking your own life over. NOTHING. Let the chips fall where they may. You obviously had unprotected sex with her. You need to be a responsible man and handle your business. Your girl is blowing off allot of steam. Don't listen to that crap. You can still be a father to the best of your ability and not be in a relationship with her. She said she will take all your money? What a joke. She knows you are not familiar with the US court steam so she is using that to her advantage. Look relax, and get yourself together. It is not as bad as you think it is. She feels rejection. There is nothing worse than a woman scorn!

Answer 6

Pleeeaaasee dont kill yourself. Think about your child without a father...it will need you. I know you are angry right now but just relax and think for a moment...try talking to her tell her how you feel and make sure you take a paternity test to make sure the baby is yours and then try and work things out with her ok. Good luck and God Bless!

In all situations in this life there is hope so hold on alright.:)

Answer 7

If you know for sure this is your kid then you shoulden't deny it. Don't get angry because sonds like she is also using you as an excuse to have someone take care of her. Don't worry a child of course needs material things but most of all needs love and that is important. The child has no falt and deserves both the mather and the father. It's not fair to leave the child for financial problems. Much Luck!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Be a man and take care of your child. You do not have to stay with anyone who cheated on you. However, you both chose to have sex and the consequences that come with that are BOTH of your responsibilities. She can threaten you all she wants with how much she "thinks" she can get, but she doesn't decide. When you go to domestic relations what you pay a month for your child is based on what you earn etc. They ask alot of financial questions. You are going to be able to support yourself too. This child didn't choose his/her parents, step up and take care of your child.

Answer 9

Hey Dude ... U should have thought about the consequences in the first place..... I know U are in tough situation but only thing I can suggest right now is to marry ur Girlfreind... Otherwise she can definetly drag you in the court and ur future will be ruined.... Don't think about her cheating... On the otherhand thats not fair for her also... It's you who made her pregnant !.. so be bold and face it !

Answer 10

guess other countries look at this different than we do in the USA. u got into a mess, and how do u really know its your child? having a child is no reason to marry her, but u will have to pay support fro the kid if it is yours. your parents may be hurt and disappointed in u but they certainly won't turn against u for this. just wait until the child is born than ask for a paternity test before u sign anything. until than distance yourself from this girl.