I'm the mother of a two-year-old boy and a 6-month-old girl. Most days we do fine. But, some days I can't help but worry that my son will turn into a monster--I guess either he is having a bad day or I am.
Anyway, do you ever worry about your own style of discipline and the choices you make?
What is the most difficult choice you have had to make so far? Did you trust your own instinct, or follow other's advice?
2007-02-28 08:17:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
We have to do the best we can and not worry about if its the right choice. Its hard... I have a 10,8,5,2 yr old I havent had to make any difficult choices yet only thing my 10 yr thought he would hang on the corner with this kids that thought they were bad asses and I put a stop to that I drug his butt into the house and let him have it I told I except better out of him and he wasnt allowed to go outside for 2 weeks only are backyard he could go.. I explained to him that the behavior they have I will not let him have. I want better for my kids...
I know I am alot harder on my kids then my parents were on me. My parents were the ones that said go out and try what you want and learn from your mistakes. I think that is crap I was not old enough or mature enough to handle half of it.. So I raise them totally diffrent. I dont follows others advice cause those parents are tthe ones that there kids are having sex or doing drugs or just really bad behavior and again I want more for my kids.
2007-02-28 08:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by Alexis221 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am always questioning myself!
I have a 3 1/2 year old son, and my fiancee as a 6 year old -both with ADHD.
My son is pretty controlled, because i have always had him on a pretty tight leash (I had ADHD And was a little cow lol)
But the 6 year old is very full on. My Fiancee has brought him up totally by himself, and really didn't have the patience to deal with him, so just gave in (I'm glad he's not reading this ha ha)
He very frequently has outbursts, and can become very violent.
now i have sat down and watched when these things happen, and tried to work out what sets him off, and how he responds best when these situations happen, and my fiancee just seemed to be making him more Angry.
I seem to have things worked out, and he is mostly well behaved, but one a month or so i have a few days where I am pulling my hair out, and nothing works!
It sometimes gets to the point where he needs to be locked in his room for hours on end, to protect my son, me and our un-born child!
And my son, seeing the oldest as his big brother, copies the behaviour at times and I get so angry with him, as he knows better!
So yes, I am always wondering if i am doing the right thing.
Not sure if i really answered the question... But i am pretty sure every parent does it
2007-02-28 08:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't worry about my own style of discipline because I studied early childhood development in college before I had kids. I am very in favor of discipline and use time-out or removing privileges. It is all a positive, non-violent approach that I take to teach self discipline and high self-esteem. I never spank and am against it. Our children are well behaved and respectful. They sure have their bad days just like all kids so it takes patience and understanding the stages of growth and what to expect. My most dificult choice I have had to make lately is choosing which school my children will attend. I want the best for them. I think that the parents who worry are ones who doubt their type of discipline such as spanking. They hate to do it but still feel it is what their kids need. That just doesn't make sense. Four out of five children feel sad or unloved after being hit. I couldn't do that to my kids. I follow advice from professionals that are educated on child development and smart mothers with common sense. Don't worry, you sound like a good mom because you are concerned for their well being and want to learn and improve. Good luck.
2007-02-28 08:30:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
We all do. If anyone says they don't worry about their choices they are either telling a lie or just heartless. I wonder if I am too strict on my kids sometimes, but looking at the out of control children around me makes me want so much more for my kids. I try to give them structure without demoralizing them or causing them undue stress. That is difficult to balance.
My toughest decision as a parent was to decide whether to stay with my husband to please the kids or to leave and teach them that some situations are bad enough to have to get out of no matter how much it may temporarily hurt. The temporary hurt is better than the long term effects of being in a terrible marriage.
2007-02-28 08:29:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a two year old and a 6 week old and I worry all the time that i am doing something wrong or that I should be doing something else to keep my toddler from acting out. I trust myself more than i trust others but I always ask for advice on what others did for their children and what my own mother did with me and my sister. But I am sure that you and I are doing what is best for our children and we are doing it to the best of our ability even when it doesn't seem like it.
2007-02-28 08:43:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
every parent worries about their parenting skills its actually a sign your a good parent There is no such thing as a perfect parent we all (well most of us) do the best we can and I'm sure your son will be fine. We all make mistakes and we learn from each other..Yes sometimes parents learn from their kids Take advice when ever you want to use your instincts you'll be fine
2007-02-28 08:26:07 · answer #6 · answered by cee_jae22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do I worry - oh heavens, yes! My son is only eight months old so we haven't had to do too much discipline yet, but I definitely worry. What I tend to do with most parenting things so far is read up on all the major viewpoints and select the one (or combination of them) that I feel most "in tune" with.
2007-02-28 08:22:43 · answer #7 · answered by Cindy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do I worry about my choices--every single day of my life. My kids are teenagers, so I can't remember a specific instance of difficulty, but my general worry is that I have sheltered them too much overall and that they won't be ready to handle life without me. I mean, our job as parents is to guide our children into adulthood, to help them to become productive without a lot of baggage. I worry if I've done that.
2007-02-28 08:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by quizmeister 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course. I don't know any parents that don't worry about the choices we make. It's called parenting. All you can do is your best. Good luck
2007-03-02 05:28:25 · answer #9 · answered by Melba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every mother worries about that. do the best you can.
2007-02-28 09:13:19 · answer #10 · answered by mrs garfield 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋