Im 18 & have 2 months left in high school but starting to think i never really lived it enough. I was well liked & things looked good all the way thru 8th grade, but then once a fresh everyone kinda was thrown into the mix, & i distanced myself from a lot of people (mainly girls) who went for upperclass guys particularly a girl i liked who didnt like me & i held grudges on her & some of her friends.) I still played soccer, basketball, & baseball & had many friends/happy. Soph yr i lost a lot more self conf cause got sick of basketball after being cut, then the LAST ONE cut from baseball. I became more stubborn, didnt talk in class, & decided to forget sports & many people & focused on things like nature & finding meaning. That made me get cut from soccer jr yr, but not unhappy cause i it was hard to make, & ended up having a good yr, w/ more confidence/social/talkng & things looked up again. However, i practiced all summer & couldnt play soccer this yr cause of inj & (more below)
2007-02-28 08:16:25 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
although i still was happy thru the fall cause of a new sr yr, i noticed that i didnt really talk in class at all & once i failed to meet a new girl i liked (it blew up) in Nov, which i blame on bad luck, & not making the team subliminally hurt self conf to talk (& got very flushed/red always), & since then i was very unhappy. Most of the people i was reaquainting w/ last yr i didnt have motiv to talk w/ this yr, & now i have regressed this yr. Now i am starting to realize that i was trying too hard all along, & should have stuck to being me w/ self confid like i used too, & now i want to leave being that cheerful, funny, outgoing kid i know i am. But i can only regret not trying out for soccer (could have been rescheduled), i could have been on vars baseball too (remember soph yr i could have been manager but became stubborn from sports politics), & could have easily been friends w/ those girls & people if i didnt try so hard, & now my bro(college) dont talk. What can (more below)
2007-02-28 08:16:52 · update #1
i do now to restore what i want, & not just end up leaving as the scared, blushing person who was shy, & leave w/ the way i was coming into high school, & still was in 9th, 11th, & early 12th grade?? i just feel i tried way too hard & lost my rel w/ brother & only can think wht could have been (friends w/ all those people, plus vars soccer & baseball which i really always loved, but now i feel i just ran from all those problems). I thought just one day it would all come together, but now thers no time left. i was thinking of still trying out for baseball, but that teams basically picked & being cut wouldn't help the cause. most people r sick of school & ready for college, while im not ready to be done yet (btw its not that bad, i still have a lot of people i talk to & continued to play basketball & soccer outside school, but i REALLY think i had everything it took to be a very influential, liked person, & i feel not everything came true. is it to late to leave my real mark?what to do?
2007-02-28 08:17:34 · update #2
i think you are afraid to grow up, to get out here in this world...i don't blame you, but, there really isn't an alternative...hey, listen...high school is not the defining moment of your life...you got a lot of time to make your mark....don't be scared...we need you out here in the big world! peace, little brother...Tammy H
2007-02-28 08:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not going to lie, I think your story gobbled up your question but this is what I can gather from it all. You are asking if regretting not doing more is ok? and if you should do something to make up for lost time. Ok here I go:
My friend, be yourself and try to care less about what others say/do. Things happen in life and a lot of it we have no control over. When bad things happen in succession its ok to be depressed or sad. Its natural and helps us learn how to fight it and try harder next time around. You have to keep a realisticly positive mental attitude for yourself. Your mental attitude has to apply to only you and not what others say/think/do. Should you try and become more social now that you noticed you missed out on some things? SURE! Have fun though! Do it because you want to enjoy life not because some show on TV had this group of kids with all these social events. All of that is a rarity and for the most part isnt realistic. If you like a girl and youre friends with someone who knows her, get them to work you into the group so you can hang out with her more or if youre feeling brave go straight upto her and ask her to do something. Be honest and be genuine, but dont neglect your responsibilities. Having fun is good and all but dont forget that when this stage of your life is said and done with... it still will NEVER define who you are as a person unless you never change and mature. During the summer, I suggest doing as much as you can with your friends but be responsible about and dont do anything youll regret more than regretting doing nothing (I hope that made sense). Ive been in your shoes except I didnt notice how popular I was until 2 years after High School was over. Do I regret not doing more, ehh - most of it still wouldnt change who I am today. Only thing it would change is how many more friends I would have, which still doesnt mean much. Treasure the best friends you have now and dont worry about this tiny portion of your life. In fact, take this summer to reverse your outlook towards the future and what you want to do with yourself. You deserve more than suffering because of your own inflection. Hindsight is 20/20, realizing what you should have done doesnt mean it would have ever materializing as youre imagining it now. Hell, it might have sucked more!
I really hope what I said helps you and you realize the error of thinking back the way you are. Dont let other people dictate who you are and if someone does something to disrespect you, maintain your integrity and be the better person. Just dont associate with them and move on. Getting into arguements with those people just aggrivates a situation that was better of not happening. Good luck and keep your chin up. There is more to life than now and yesterday.
2007-02-28 16:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by parasitek93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Jack, great question.
I am not sure what you can do in the remaining 2 months of high school to show the real person you are. I had some problems with that in high school as well. The great thing is that your figuring this out early in life. Imagine if you went to college and still doing this? What you can do now is be that strong great sociable person from now with an emphasis on carrying that into College. College years are great for becomming who you truly are. You will have 100's of new freinds if you choose. Also try out for some sports in College if you wish. Try harder than ever before even if you have to "walk on" as a freshman.
God Bless you Jack,
P.S. You are worth so much more than just being good at sports or a Jock, just realize that!! Your are great just being you!!
2007-02-28 16:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by Elias 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's never too late. focus on what you want to accomplish and do it. overcome your fears by doing what makes you happy. almost everyone has regrets about high school. what you have done is normal and can't be changed but you can change what happens next by proving to yourself that you can do anything you set your mind to. good luck and hang in there things will get better.
2007-02-28 16:28:29 · answer #4 · answered by mrs garfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and make the best of the 4 months you have left.
2007-02-28 16:26:28 · answer #5 · answered by jaypea40 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk about a life story I'm hoping you are a guy and you should get enough money to go sky diving.
2007-02-28 16:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by Connor L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
can you summarize your question in 10 words or less? do you really expect me to read all this dreck? crazy mofo!
2007-02-28 16:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by David M 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you need help alright...
2007-02-28 16:24:24 · answer #8 · answered by mary s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋