My best friend couldn't go to the movies with me because of her grades, and she had all As and 1 C in one of the hardest classes at my school (Algebra II-Engineering Honors) and since thats an honors class its considered a B but that's not good enough for her parents even that she has over a 4.0 GPA, and my grades aren't that good compared to her's (<2 A's> <1 B> <3 C's> and <1 D>). Why do some parents act like this I mean I have that same math teacher and I (along with the rest of the class) recieved a 'D' except her which was a 'C'.
2007-02-28 08:14:26 · 18 answers · asked by anonymous 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Some parents push their kidsd way too hard, I could understand punishing her if she had all D's, but...
i had a friend once who's dad told her off in front of a whole bunch of girls because of her report card. He was mad because she might not get her picture in the yearbook for top of the class (she had all A's!)
(I beat her for top of the class at grad though!) My parents always said kids need to learn how to study and manage their own time, not just be forced to do it, but that's just the way they were.
2007-02-28 08:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some parents expect more of their children.
Just because you didn't get punished doesn't mean that it a good grade. A lot of parents think school should be a priority to a child that age--and if she doesn't make the grade, they'll take away privileges.
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I think I misunderstood the question--In my first interpretation, I thought you meant she has A's in all her other classes and a C in this one--But, maybe you meant she had all A's on her tests in that class except for one test. If she made only one C out of all her tests, considering that the class as a whole made a 'D'--maybe her parents' actions were a little harsh. But honestly, in the long run--one movie isn't really a big deal. I still don't think it is that extreme of a punishment. If her parents grounded her for a week or so--that would be a little extreme.
2007-02-28 08:20:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some parents really want there child to be the top at everything, and they won't stop until they are. This kid has really good grades and everything and is going on really well however there is one bad grade. The parents might be afraid that if the kid goes to movies and goes out often, they they might not concenterate on studying and might be getting lower grades.
Though I am not sure, some parents are really like this, especially if they did the same thing in there time.
2007-02-28 08:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by Alex DB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on parenting style. There could be a couple of reasons for this.
1. Some parents stress their children out trying to make them perfect.
2. If she is capable of making a better grade than she has received, to encourage her to do her best.
I don't agree with pressuring a child beyond their capabilities, but if a child is capable of making a higher grade you shouldn't teach them that it's OK to settle for just getting by.
2007-02-28 08:21:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My parents were like that with me. I felt like my grades were the sum total of who I was. And I had nightmares about high school until I was 27 years old.
I expect my kids to do their best in school. Period. I expect A's if I know they are capable, but if a C is the best they can do in a class, then I don't add my disappointment to their list of worrys.
2007-02-28 08:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by quizmeister 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are probably things that you dont see. Her parents are doing what THEY think is right, and honestly, if they arent hurting her, it doesnt matter what you think. They DO sound a bit strict, but like I said, there may be factors that you cant see or understand. Its easy to want to flake off in highschool, and obviously, since their daughter is gifted, they dont want to encourage that. More parents should care that much about their kids. It may seem like a huge deal to not get to go to a movie, but in the long run, she is going to thank her parents because she will be making twice or 3 times the money that all the former movie-watching, partying kids, are making.
2007-02-28 08:17:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Some parents think that they are doing the best for there children by pushing them like that but i think that they are wrong she deserved to go to the movies with you as she did very well.at the end of the day she will soon be old enough to make her own decisions and things like this wont matter anymore.sorry your friend has such bullies for parents.
2007-02-28 08:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just the way her parents choose to discipline her and encourage better study habits. She might also have some behavioral issues that affect whether they let her go to a movie or whether they restrict her. Every parent is different in how they choose to discipline their children. Some seem stricter than others.
2007-02-28 08:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by §Sally§ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That really bites.I guess some parents are more hard on their children because they think that the more they push the better their child will do.I think that the best thing for your friend to do is to be very honest with his/her parents.Tell your friend to tell the parents that he/she fells that they are pushing to hard.If anything your friend deserves to go to the movies because she/he is doing so good.Well I hope everything works out for you guys,good luck!
2007-02-28 08:26:51 · answer #9 · answered by cynomynG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a good way to make the kid feel like they're not good enough, or that their parents only love them conditionally when they get good grades. My parents are proud of me regardless of what grades I get, as long as I put effort into my work.
2007-02-28 08:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋