when is a good age to talk to your daughter's masturbation?

Answer 1

Why would you talk to them about masturbation??

Are you going to give them pointers??? That's just weird.

Answer 2

I'd say it's very important to talk to your children about masturbation as well as all things sexual. There are so many rumors out there about it from the old "you'll grow hair on your palms" to the dangerous belief that masturbation isn't sex and therefore OK to do with anyone anytime. For girls it can also be important if they are masturbating to be careful to keep hands clean so they don't develop infections. You want your DD to have correct information and to know your family's beliefs on the subject.

I'd say that the best time to start is when they're young and first learn that touching themselves in certain ways feels good. Then it's time to tell them either don't do that (if that's the way your family believes) or that's something that needs to be done in private. You can add to the conversation from there as they grow and question more.

If you're past that time and need to play catch up I kind of like how "Girlology: A Girl's Guide to Stuff That Matters" handles masturbation. It's short and to the point without being graphic. In fact, I recommend the book for a lot of the information it has on changing relationships with parents and friends, puberty, and sex.

Answer 3

When she first notices her body is when she first needs to know her curiosity is normal. Then it just goes on from there. Why would we be willing to discuss with boys about when/where to touch themselves, but not with girls? Pretty much every parent has had to say to their sons something about "restricting exploration to the privacy of a bedroom or bathroom" - girls deserve the same normalization and understanding of the function of masturbation. It is part of sexuality for both genders.

Answer 4

lol, the way you worded it it made it sound like you want to talk directly to her masturbation. I am almost 14 and my mom never talked about it with me, or my older brother or anything. I don't think that you have to talk to them about it, it would make them uncomfortable for one thing, and for another it's not necessary.


Nice avatar by the way....that's disgusting, PLEASE change it...how would your daughter feel if she saw that you were exposing yourself to everyone?

Answer 5

I don't think there ever is an age that you need to talk to your daughter about masterbation. It's necessary to explain sex to them, but it's not needed to explain masterbation. Some things you just figure out on your own.