2 year relationship but no commitment he said we need to stop this?

Question

hi all. i had SEX with my ex boyfriend on our first date. i was older than him for 5 years. were classmates in college. i asked him to go out and we had SEX in the motel. after we had SEX i asked him if he likes me then he said yes. after 3 weeks i called him then went to movie theater and eat out. but we seldom see each other. we had SEX less than 10 times during that time. we dont talk about our relationship. i went to his house and met his parents he introduced me as a friend only (his parents didnt like me). and he went to my house too and he met my mom. my question is do you think this guy only wants me in bed. one more thing is i always give him gifts and i did not receive anything except for the roses he gave to me after i gave him an expensive gift. what do you think guys can i call him my ex boyfriend or not because we do not have any commitment he can do whatever he wants and i can do too. please help me i just want to know if he just wants SEX only. what you guys think? ty

Answer 1

all i can say is this if youre a decent woman you will have to know the guy first before you make love on him and YES he just wants SEX only thats it nothing more if he cares for you nor feels something about you he will open up what kind of relationship you two have but he gets what he wants in the first place SEX so i feel so sorry for you bay girl because you chose it then just accept it i wonder you might doing that on your previous first date if you want to have a real and serious relationship dont give that 3 word on the guy on your first date because they will think that youre a **** sorry to say that but thats what you showed on him next time dont do it again and please find someone who has your age ok MOVE ON :)

Answer 2

I am sorry to tell you this but I think he is using you girl and yes he is using you for sex. You basically take charge of this relationship and he doesn't need to put any effort. He is 100% sure that you are his and that you will not dare to walk out on him. He is very confortable and chances are he doesn't plan to change since there is no need. I mean, you take him out, buy him gifts, you don't complain when he introduces you like a friend to his parents and then has sex with you! No girl! This guy is taking advantage of you and the sad part is that you are letting him. You are setting yourself up for a lot of heartache. I think everyone deserves the benefit of a doubt, so I think you shoudl talk to him about this. Tell himm EVERYTHING so sit down and write all the things that bug you. Then, if his answers are not what you want and he doesn't change his attitute then tell him that whatever you guys had is over. Then stick to your descision, don't be his friend! Take Care!