Life doesn't get better, does it?

Question

I was going to commit suicide when I was 16. Everyone told me that I was so young and just wait, life would get better. So, I set some goals for myself and tried to make the best out of my life. I went to college, got a degree, got a professional job. But, now my life is full of work, bills, obligations. Nothing has happened in my life that has really been worth living for. Life has just become more difficult to deal with. I wonder why I didn't just kill myself off when I was 16. I met a man 4 years ago who I loved completely. I thought, "This is why I was put on this earth. I'm here to love him." So, I did. I loved him with my whole heart. Six months ago, he broke my heart. And again I'm at that point where I'm questioning what's so important to live for? What's the point of it all?

Answer 1

Hi Skyblue,
Life is suffering, that is one of the 4 noble truths.
When we talk about life without a doubt everyone will feel the sting of depression at some point. Some people just deal with it better than others and some just need to find new skills at dealing with lifes ups and downs. I am one who feels as you do. "whats the point of all this suffering". I have been depressed, out and in, thought about suicide,suffer from Anxiety disorder and panic attacks the gament. I believe that life is worth living although i cant answer all the questions i have about life. And I do feel that we have suffering and death to realize how precious life is. But that doesnt matter because someone cant make you feel happy or make you believe what they believe. Each of us have to find contentment someway somehow. For some its seeing a Doctor, taking meds if needed(which is normal and just what some people need like myself) and for others its finding new meanings of life, new experiences, new careers. I think this explains Mid life crisis that so many people suffer with. You just need to find your smile your way, not in anyone or someone elses beliefs or on the shoulders of anyone else. Its different for all of us sweety. It would be great chatting about life with you if you like. My yahoo im messenger name is photoguys2003
God Bless you
P.S. Prayer has turned my life around. I would suggest trying it.

Answer 2

Nobody can tell if you life gets better or not. Most people will just blindly say it does but they don't know. It depends. Anything could happen. You could find someone even better than the one who broke your heart and be happier than ever. You could lose your job. Who knows? If there's a point that's for you to decide.

Though there is one saying I find somewhat englightening: "Enjoy life, there's plenty of time to be dead." (Hans Christian Andersen, interestingly enough one of the most depressing fairy-tale writers in existence.)

Answer 3

You ARE still alive....so somewhere within you there is a defense mechanism that won't allow self-destruction.Have you ever tried to communicate with it?Have you thought of making 2 lists?,one of the things that bother you in the world,aspects of yourself that you dislike,what there is in your daily routine that is not fulfilling,the other list of things you love about the world,aspects of yourself that you DO like,what there is in your daily routine that IS fulfilling?These are only examples of self-examination,the lists can contain any number of topics..........YOU OWE IT TO YOURSELF TO WANT TO LIVE.Many years ago,I cut my WRISTS when I finally realized that a girl I literally worshipped did not feel the same,and she was still "seeing" me out of pity.It IS possible to love someone too much;it smothers that person,and that literally pushes the person away.If you're a "water"sign,you are probably a very sensitive woman and material possessions take a back seat to what I myself believe:that romantic bliss is paramount to a happy life.........Are you seeing a mental-health specialist?If not,won't you consider it?I myself have one,and NO I do not take any "meds". If by chance one of your "problems" is that you consider yourself "abnormal" here's a line from my favorite philosopher,the great Murti:"It is NOT a measure of good health to be well-adjusted to a profoundly sick society" That ring true for you?Conformity can be a debilitating,crushing yawn machine for people who are NOT sociopathic anal retentives. PLEASE,know that you,as a living,breathing entity,are entitled and deserving of happiness....and this dude wants you to have it!! So PLEASE,suffering stranger,click your heels 3 times and say"I want to be happy and I'm gonna pursue it"!! My best wishes,and a happy,fruitful,llloooooonnngg LIFE .......