I am in turmoil, I have been so down that I have been swearing at my kids, now someone has reported me?

Question

Someone has reported me to social services, pease don't think of me as bad I have just been so so down and things have got on top of me...Im scared they'll take my boys away...someone please help

Answer 1

Call your doctor, or your local counseling center and ask if someone can help with your depression. Your doctor may be able to prescribe something to you that will help.

However, it takes a while to get adjusted to an anti-depressant so you might want to see if some family or friends can help you out with the kids.

Depression effects a lot of people and that doesn't make you a bad parent, it just means you need a little help to get back to yourself. Take the call to social services as the sign that you can no longer handle this on your own. It's time for you to take charge of your feelings and get back to the person you know you can be.

Hang in there, it can get better if you reach out to those around you for help.

Answer 2

Have nerver have to deal with Social service, but know people that have work for them
I know that sometimes they get involve where they are not needed,
but if I were you clean your house (because when we are depress that one of the things that we let go)
make sure that all your children clothes/rooms are clean
and when they show up
sit them down and tell them the truth that you have been having a hard time
you been yelling a lot at your children (hope that you have not hit them) but it is soemthing that you are trying to remedy
including getting counseling to teah you how to manage stress
But other than that I can't see how we can help you
not only that we don't know you we also don't what state you live in
Hope that you are able to fix this situation
Good luck

Answer 3

We all have bad days and we all take things out on our children that we shouldn't. The key factor here to take into consideration is exactly that, we need to step back and realize that our problems are not our children's faults either though at times it may seem that way. Whatever it is that has you so down, take some time and evaluate what is causing this and if its worth the damage that you are doing to yourself and the people around you. After all if you can't even take care of yourself how can you take care of your children. I have been in this place where you are at many times and I feel for you. Find someone that you can talk to, it may need to be someone that you feel will not criticize what you are feeling, it may even need to be a complete stranger. Hope this helps, best of luck.

Answer 4

It is unlikely that anything will come from simply swearing at your kids, though of course it's not ideal. Social services are not a scary force who simply burst through the front door snatching children in the night... they are a supportive, caring organisation looking after the best interest of children... and 99% of the time the best interest is keeping the children with their parents, though sometimes parents will need support in how to manage parenting. Children are only removed (and that's a process, not an immediate grab) if they are deemed in serious danger. Learn from this lesson and think about your parenting techniques... and remember, you are human and are going to make some mistakes - it's only a bad mistake though if you don't learn from it!

Answer 5

Alot of people dont understand how hard it is to be a parent, its a full time job, there are no holidays and you work 24 hours a day 7 days a week for the rest of your life, you never stop being a mum even after your kids move, cos they will always need their mum. I'm a single mother of 3 kids, but I also share a house with my sister in law and her 4 kids, so we have 7 kids in the house under the age of 11.. And YES, we do get down, we do say things on the spare of the moment, we dont actually mean it though, and as parents we all get frustrated and a little down sometimes, I think it just comes with the territory.. We are not super hero's (even though I would love to be).. And people need to realise this.. There are alot worse things that parents have done to their children than swear at them. Social Services will not take your children off you for swearing at them, please dont worry it will just cause you more stress..And in regards to your feeling down mood, it sounds like its time you take care of 'MUM', I know its hard but try to get to bed early, also try to take a women's multi vitamin and iron tablets..they will perk you up abit, as a mother myself I know not all of us eat properly, a cuppa and a handful of whatever will usually keep us going..and Yes things get on top of us at times, what I do is just let things fall into place on their own..stressing about it will not make it better or make it disappear it will just make you feel worse and you'll end up questioning yourself, which is never a good thing.. Things will rectify themselves in time... If you are truly worried about the way you have been feeling, then it wont hurt to see your G.P, but they will probably diagnose you with depression, like they do with all mothers who have been feeling stressed.. Do what you think is best for YOU..

Answer 6

If your only major mistake is swearing at your boys, you will probably not lose them. You will be under investigation, so if there has been neglect or abuse, you can prepare to fight for them. Look at this as a wake up call. No matter what frustrations or problems you have in life, don't take it out on your children. Love them enough to find your joy in them; use them to give you strength and motivation to deal with your problems correctly. Don't make their life miserable because of your difficulties in life. Stop the domino effect now instead of passing your grief on to your children.

Answer 7

they wont take the kids away if all you have done is swear at them. Im not saying that swearing at them is not bad, but things could be worse. you should have nothing to worry about unless you have physically abused them or failed to meet their needs. maybe you should talk to a counselor to help you feel better so that you dont take things out on your kids.

Answer 8

They'll investigate. They can't take your children away from you because you swear at your kids. If you deprive them of food, water, sleep, or shelter, then they can take them away. Considering you haven't done that, you will be fine. When social services comes, be VERY nice, but not sicky-sweet.

Answer 9

Instead of worrying about social services taking your children away, why don't you look at them as a source for the help you need. Talk to your social worker and see what they can do for you. They're not evil, they are there to help.

Answer 10

I don't think they would take your kids away for just swearing at them although you must stop that!
When they do come to see you ask them for help (some counselling or a sitter now & then to give you a break ) so in future you don't have to take it out on your kids!!