I'm so sick of doing her chores, , she's 16 .I always do mine and every night I cook for my sister, boyfriend, and my dad, since my mom left to take care of her dad who is dying of cancer, I always make him some food also and me and my boyfriend always vistit him, and all my sister does is lie, and run off with her friend's , she is hinding her report card, cause she never does her homework, it's all F's and she stays out till 12:00 ,she drinks and lies and I'm tierd of it, I start to feel bad, cause my dad works 2 jobs , and I have to clean her mess, she has a job, but never goes to work, I have to do homework and study at college to become a florist, and I;km stress as he** and I could only do so much, please help.I'm 19 and I need help with a lazy , ungrateful sister
2007-02-28 07:46:19 · 9 answers · asked by kitty 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She wont even see her grandpa and grandma, who did nice things for her everytime. My sister needs help.
2007-02-28 07:48:24 · update #1
My sister doesn't say, thank you , to them.
2007-02-28 07:48:54 · update #2
My sister is drying my family dry for money, when she has her own job , and money , but she blows it. She doesnt pay them back.
2007-02-28 07:50:17 · update #3
We have this rule, whatever pet you have , you are the one to feed it, and I end up feeding her dog, cause I feel sorry for it. I already take care of my two cat's.
2007-02-28 08:06:16 · update #4
it seems she spend her most of the time with wrong people or say she is deeply engaged in bad company. the only way is to share your problem with some close elder on whom your sis also has faith/respect. the next thing you can also try to make her understand that she is not doing right thing, and you can help her to improve her bohemian life-style. its not simple task although. You can at last stop talking with her and in next step do not touch her cloth so that to show her that you are boycotting her. this may give her a psychological pressure to change her attitude.
Yes , dint be so down to earth, be strong, be her senior and show your anger openly.
best of luck.
2007-02-28 08:06:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well...i've been there where your sister is (now I'm 19 aswell) and it took me a while to get back on track (the right one).until she meets with good old cruel reality she's not gonna give it up.
maybe you should start NOT doing things for her and tell her that it's never too late to do it right in school because your parents would be happy about that.
if all that doesn't work make you dad put her on house arrest and stop giving her money to spend.
good luck with that and don't worry she will eventually grow out of it.be the time she's 18 she'll be bored of this kind of fun.
ps : now you know what your mother has to do for you so be greatful for that
2007-02-28 07:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by summersun 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think honestly this is where tough love needs to come into play...i realize that you love your sister as i can tell from what you have stated, but this is to the point that you are letting her walk all over you, i'd say make te food for everyone BUT her, let her fend for herself and if need be have her kicked out of the house...and don't be afraid to ask your boyfriend for help either, he should want to help you, I know i'd be offering every bit of help i could lend.
2007-02-28 07:56:58 · answer #3 · answered by Sire_D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't handle this on your own. You need to sit down and have a heart to heart with your Dad about her. Whether he listens to you or not, you'll just have to quietly teach her a lesson. Don't clean up after her, don't cook for her, don't lie for her. Tell her & your Dad exactly what you're about to do then go about doing it. She's heading to trouble & your Dad needs to get involved in her life. This isn't your responsibility - it's your parents.
Concentrate on what you need to do with school & helping your Dad out with the house (minus your sister's mess) - that's it. You need to look out for yourself first and foremost. Good luck...
2007-02-28 07:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by Lucy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop doing it. It's not your job. Your parents will eventually step in. If your sister sees that you are going to take care of her responsibilities, she will not be motivated to do them herself.
2007-02-28 07:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tie her a$$ up and make her understand what needs to be done!!! Then leave her to stew for an hour or so!!!!
2007-02-28 07:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by tiemetight814 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Cook only enough for everyone else and dont do anything for her.
2007-02-28 07:49:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
stop cooking and cleaning for her...tell her to get her act together
2007-03-03 11:54:25 · answer #8 · answered by lata 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is a typical 16 year old. she will grow out of that phase.
2007-02-28 07:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋