Just to clear things up from the last thread, me and this girl were friends in grade 6-7 and were not for grade 8. We just became friends again this year. The stuff she said online wasn't like "get away"
K, so I am a 15 year old boy (grade 9) and I am madely in love this girl in my grade as well. Just for background, I am extremely athletic and smart. I am very outgoing around EVERYONE except her which is getting in the way. She does not like me back but we are quite good friends. She says I am to shy around her although it seems like she is a bit shy and uncomfortable because she knows I like her. I think I need to flirt with her more but I just don't know what to do. On valentines day I wrote her a poem and gave it to her and she said she really liked it. Just recently, I was talking to her online and asked her why she doesn't talk to me at school a lot. She said because she didn't want to lead me on. That hurt me pretty bad. What can I do to her that will change her mind about me
2007-02-28 07:41:35 · 14 answers · asked by hahaha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well... Im 14... so I don't know how much you would want to listen to me... tho Im a girl... Just letting you know so if you don't want to listen to me on this much I'll get it.
Look, she probably has no idea what she wants herself. She might like you and not even realize it. Try going out with someone else. And drop the poem thing... it SCREAMS desperate. Like... it doesn't matter if you do WHILE you're dating someone but when you're trying to get them to like you that's a bit too much. If you date someone else then you might get her off your mind. And possibly even get her jealous, but don't go dating someone else JUST because of that. Anyways, we're still young, haha. There's still A LOT of time to get her interested in you.
2007-02-28 07:51:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do back-attack ! but do not plan for things you want to do for her, think how to be yourself, natural and spontonus! do not try such actions or behaviors that mess things up. Be more patient and let the relation takes its time, there is no need for rush. Guys always face the main problem" frustration"... be cool and enjoy the relation, you are both in different age and the vision to the relation is quite different than in past. if you couldnt get her as your girlfriend "lover" then keep her as your friend. the beautiful things come up within the nice and beautiful memories, and rush ruins the joy of any relation... wish you the best luck dude!
2007-02-28 15:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself, and i know that this is going to be pretty
harsh... but you can't make someone like you. trust me i learned the hard way. if you are romantic than be as romantic as possible. do NOT make your friends annoy her by saying, oh you are perfect for each other, you should totally go out with him bla bla bla, it doesn't work, in fact it maks her hate you even more!! as long as you are your OUTGOING self like you say you are, then maybe she will start to like you back since she said you were too shy around her. i really dont know what else to day so
GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-02-28 15:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by kbigred823 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing! You should never change the way you are for someone else. Be who you are! Find a girl that is going to like you for you! She has already stated she wasn't interested so just let it be...at least she will always be your friend!
2007-02-28 15:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At ur age there is no such thing as "madly in love", but maby gf.-bf. stuff, trust me I made that mistake, and I am 16!!! But If u want her here's what u do:
Talk to her, but not to much u don't want her to feel like ur stalking her, that's soooo uncool!@*!
-n- flirt alittle, girls like that, and tell her that she has cute eye's, thats sweet, then tell her that she's HOTT!,that's the non-corny part!!*@!
2007-02-28 16:00:07 · answer #5 · answered by kickasscutie171 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes it's better to just leave her alone and let her figure out what you are by letting her watch you treat others with respect. You might be making her feel uncomfortable around you and then she'll block you out..perhaps permanently.
2007-02-28 15:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by Sagira Tadashi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept and respect her friendship...PERIOD! It may change in the future for you when you both mature a bit. But for now take my advise. Good Luck!
P.S. you can never expect to change amyone's mind. Only they can do that.
2007-02-28 15:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Kamm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just don't be so clingy sometimes you got to move on and what you could do is date other girls or do something else in the mean time cause she obvisly isn't interested yet
just wait and maybe she'll come around
2007-02-28 15:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by Cristy77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her on a date, something like a picnic at a park. Sit with her and talk it all out.
2007-02-28 15:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change someone's mind so you have to accept that you will never date her; and try to move on and try to meet someone else.
If you refuse to take no for an answer, she could take action against you for stalking.
2007-02-28 15:48:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋