My girlfriend is EXTREMELY ticklish. Every time i try to get her in the mood, it just tickles her. And she isn't just ticklish in the "sensative" areas, she's ticklish everywhere, even her hands. I've tried to talk to her a few times about it and ask her what she likes, but all she ever says is "i don't know". I know it can be a sensative subject with some people, so i don't pressure her telling her i need an answer. i just bring it up every once in a while. and i love her more than anything, but she's horrible at communicating, and she wont budge. is there anything i can do to turn her on?
2007-02-28 07:41:07 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I too am extremely ticklish, and it is hard on my husband. But MOST women do not want to be slapped in the face with a penis, or talked dirty too. And not all women like roses, frankly I DETEST roses.
What my husband does is very lightly rub his fingers down the insides of my thighs, and kiss my neck. Try play wrestling, it works too. Or write her a letter telling her the things you want to do to her and for her...(not like I want to take the trash out)
Try taking a long hot bath or shower for her by candle light, or watch a sexy movie together.
2007-02-28 07:49:12 · answer #1 · answered by yep-it-is-me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your question is a bit confusing. In order to properly answer it I need to know, are you already intimate? If so, how in the world do you get her aroused enough to want to make love?
If you are not intimate, it could possibly be that her being "ticklish" is her way of keeping you at arm's length.
If your girlfriend is "horrible" at communicating, this should send warning signals to you. Are you sure she really cares for you, or are you just a "fill in" until she finds the one she can truly care for.
It is very hard to make a relationship work if 1) she is so ticklish you are unable to even be affectionate. and 2) she is unable or unwilling to communicate.
I think some honest discussion about where you really are in this relationship is in order. It is virtually impossible to make a relatioship grow and flower without communication.
Think about it. Are you willing to settle for this kind of relatioship?
2007-02-28 15:52:39 · answer #2 · answered by romeoshannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooo, that's a tough one if she's so ticklish. Maybe play a little with some ice? That's a good mood starter. And since it's not direct touching it shouldn't be that ticklish. I know you want to touch her softly.. in a manner of speaking, but soft touches are really ticklish so maybe be a little firmer. That's sounds really dirty but I hope you get where I'm getting at.
2007-02-28 15:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by ladyeilwynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps part of it is she is nervous or self-conscious or doesn't really want to. You should really sit down and talk with her about it and find out what the problem is, if there is one.
A lot of times people give clues or reveal what sort of things turn them on in idle conversation. If she is the nervous/uncertain sort you could be more observant and watch out for these clues and when you think it's the right time to initiate something basically give all the control to her. You could tell her that you would love for HER to show you what SHE wants to do. If she says "I don't know" just give her a few suggestions of what you think she's in to, reassuring her that you'd love to do that too and that it would be fun to try them out together.
2007-02-28 15:57:58 · answer #4 · answered by Random Thought 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be time for you to move into extremes. Try in the shower. Restraints. Feathes. wips, chains, spanking etc. Don't ask, give a try, be resonable. You will know when to stop (or not) good luck
2007-02-28 15:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by Ray2play 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she ticklish when you kiss her? Tell her where you will touch her before you do.
2007-02-28 15:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by DrPepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice to her.Something. I'm never good in relationships. Good luck. Maybe be give her a present or take her on vacation, then she'll probably snap out of it.
2007-02-28 15:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by lemon drops 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im seriuos when i say this.
do a strip tease to "need you tonight" by inxs
rent coyote ugly and watch how the guy does his dance to this song.
SWEAR TO GOD,thisll work!!
<3
2007-02-28 15:51:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to the movie, some really romantic places that may want her want it.
2007-02-28 15:51:18 · answer #9 · answered by Ashisweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kiss her when she least expects it ,and it should be long and passionate ,after breaking off , look straight into her eyes and take her into ur arms........and tell her that u really care about her.....and u get the drift?
2007-02-28 15:52:39 · answer #10 · answered by serena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋