My boyfriend and I really care about each other and we were friends for a year before we became a couple so we know each other really well. Anyways we have been kissing a lot more lately and he knows that I do not want to sleep with anyone until I am married. This includes all types of sex. Anyways, he respects that but we have been kissing and he always goes after my neck and my chest and things got carried away and he was slipping his hand up my shirt. He also thinks it's okay to touch my butt or chest. I told him that it is my body and I asked if he respects me and he said yes. He is a great guy and always listens to how I am feeling...but do you think I am over-reacting or am I right to say this to him?? I love when he kisses my neck, but it could lead to something more that I've promised not to do until marriage. He said he doesn't want "sex" and respects that I don't. So when we do all this...is that bad for him if he gets worked up and doesn't get anything in return?
2007-02-28 07:35:52 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is always telling me how much he loves me and doesn't want to have sex because I don't want to and he loves me for my "good heart" and not for my body. He also said he thought I was "too beautiful" for him and that he wanted to wait for me.
I just don't understand I guess because he is so touchy feely--should I stop the "touchy-feeliness"?
I'm 20 and he's 24.
2007-02-28 07:40:32 · update #1
I am a guy and yeah he is getting pretty damn ticked off at you to say the least. Dont mean to frighten you but if he wants sex, he will began to look elsewhere pretty soon. It all depends on how much he loves you compared to how much he wants to have sex with you. But trust me, sooner or later he will give up on you. From there on its your choice. You can either satisfy his wish, or face the consequences. Give me as much thumbs down as you want, its the truth.
2007-02-28 07:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
I really admire you for wanting to wait and I encourage you to do so. In doing so, you know your limits and as long as you're upfront with your boyfriend, you're not leading him on. Continue being honest with him and don't be afraid to stop if things getting too carried away. I made this mistake and ending up having sex for the first at 19 - pregnant at 20 - married the baby's father - and divorced by 22. I still wish I could go back and wait a few years. Continue what you're doing and don't make the same mistake!
2007-02-28 15:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry but unless he's from another planet..alot of guys have sex on their mind and if you believe they wouldn't enjoy the chance to get some you're in your own little world.
No it's not bad when he gets nothing in return because he is getting something. You DON'T have to be with him. You're spending precious time with him and allowing this person to get to know you.
If someone doesn't respect you then keep away from them. I suggest you lay down the law and stop him from kissing your neck and wherever else his mouth trails before your body and mind refuse to cooperate and your doing something you never intended on doing.
If he truly respects you he'll stop.
2007-02-28 15:44:45 · answer #3 · answered by Sagira Tadashi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to play games. He's trying to work you up to the point that you'll give in and have sex with him. This is not respecting you, this is trying ton conquer a virgin. Tell him to back off! No more kissing like this.
If he respects you and loves you so much, he'll understand. Otherwise he's not worth waisting your virginity on.
Wait for marriage, you won't regret it.
2007-02-28 15:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by penhead72 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would like to applaud you for that I hope you do alt
of pray because that is what exactly you need to help overcome
all this.maybe you two need to stick to regular date, if you
spend to much time home then you Will. and let me tell you
something you are missing out on nothing even if do tell
you there are liars and jealous because they didn,t wait
like you but you need to pray heavenly help me with my desire
to have sex, my body want it even though i know it not
your Willl, let your wil be done in my life, let your son Jesus
be my comforter and protector during this hard time oh lord
my body is weak and craving, i trust you lord with my life
and body and believe you do what you said you wil do Amen
please pray that because you cant, sustain alone. God Bless
2007-02-28 15:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by Tella 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's wonderful to hear from a young person with your standards.
It is your body and you should always respect that first and foremost.
Maybe you should back off a little with the kissing and touching; at least until you hear a commitment.
2007-02-28 15:44:10 · answer #6 · answered by shendley04 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you continue this you will not be saving anything for marriage. What do you think kissing leads to. Dump this guy he wants sex. Focus on something else or find someone who want to get married. And get married
2007-02-28 15:43:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's lying when he says he doesn't want sex and he's going to do everything he can to get you to sleep with him. He will even try to be the "understanding" guy who "respects" your feelings. But don't fall for it he knows what he's doing and he knows how to get you to lose control of youself but you have to be strong and hold onto what's important to you.
2007-02-28 15:43:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex has nothing to do with foreplay
foreplay has everything to do with sex
stop the the touch and feel for several months then see how he reacts
talk to him about how you feel being nervous of him
maybe the the touch and feel seems to be the only way he he can express feelings ask him to show in different ways
2007-02-28 15:47:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't wanna have sex then don't. It is smart to wait until you are married. There is nothing wrong with that. It is not your fault he is getting all worked up. He does not have to do what ever he does to get worked up. Don't give in just because you feel that it is wrong. Hold on to what you belive in.
2007-02-28 15:43:08 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I say that you tell him straight up that nothing is going to happen until you get married...cause the way it sounds is he is just trying to get you to do the things he does which will lead to other things...and you dont want that...i say stay with him but tell him that somethings he does is not ok...
2007-02-28 15:40:28 · answer #11 · answered by Brooke 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋