I am a single parent at 22, how would I go about meeting someone responsible and mature enough to enter a relationship with? How would I know if I could trust them around my 13 month old?
2007-02-28 07:23:13 · 6 answers · asked by Sadmomma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Knowing if someone is mature and responsible is going to take time, communication and listening to your instincts. As far as the trust issue, the first thing you need to do is have a criminal report ran on him. You would need his SS# , go to your local clerk of court and they will run one for you.
2007-02-28 07:31:08 · answer #1 · answered by curiousnktown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to force a relationship or create one. Why not join some clubs or groups of people with similar interests. If you like books, hire a babysitter or get grandma to babysit, go to the local book store and find out what book clubs meet when. In order to stay fit you could join an athletic club (volleyball is fun and involves both sexes). Or you could join a choir at your local church. You will meet people with similar interests and a relationship or friendship could develop. When your child reaches school age you will be able to involve yourself in his/her activities (soccer, boy/girl scouts, t-ball, etc.). You will be surprised by the number of single parent males there are out there. Take your time and enjoy your child while they are young and need you so much more. Your time will come. In the meantime, do things for yourself (treat yourself to a massage once every couple of months, go to a movie or theatre once in awhile - take care of the mom so she enjoys taking care of the kid) and learn to love yourself before bringing someone else into the picture. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-28 15:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my current boyfriend when my son was 6 months. He's now 26 months old. You should certainly start out as friends, as the person above stated. You just have to pick someone with good morals. And you have to watch them and be very aware of how they treat your child. Watch them when they think you aren't watching. I find that's the way to see people's true actions.
It might sound like a lot to do, but I think you can never be too careful with your child's life. I even watch my relatives with my son. Too many sick people in this world and unfortunately they don't go around wearing signs saying they are bad people.
2007-02-28 15:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by that dead girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately start by being friends first. Then I would suggest visiting his family with him. Watch how he treats his mother, that is a good clue on how men behave in relationships. Take it slow. I think it would take me a long time before I felt I could trust someone with my kids.
2007-02-28 15:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you meet them, and they ask about you - let them know you have a beautiful child. As to see if they are responsible or not - that can only come with getting to know them, and watching them around your child.
2007-02-28 15:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by Loup Garou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now I would suggest you to focus on raising your child and not worry about the relationship.
Good luck!
2007-02-28 15:35:42 · answer #6 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋