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Question

How do you get the strength to walk away from someone who doesn't love you. I am seeing this guy and I care for him so much but he doesn't feel the same. We talk and see each other a few times a week and each time it gets worse. (I fall deeper) I think about him when we are not together and I want to become a real couple. I won't mention it to him because he likes things the way they are and was clear in the beginning that he wasn't looking for a real relationship. I know it is completely my fault that I fell for him and that makes it worse but I just didn't expect to fall so fast or so hard. I know I should stop talking to him and stop seeing him because its unlikely that he will suddenly decide that he does want a relationship. How do I walk away? I know one day it will end and he will find someone and then I will be left even more heartbroken but how do I break my own heart now by leaving. (My stupid heart keeps telling me to wait around just a little longer)

He is a great guy in many ways. (far from perfect but nobody is) I just need to now how to make myself walk away and hurt now to save myself worse pain later. Has anyone ever felt this or gone through this? What did you do?

Answer 1

I went through the same thing years ago. I persued this girl for months trying to get her to like me, but it never worked. It just made me sadder and sadder. Finally, I got to the point where I had to say enough is enough. I stopped seeing her and moved on. And wouldn't you know it? A couple of months later I ran into her at a party. And, guess what? She had decided, in my abscence, that I was pretty cool after all. She told me that she missed me and that she knew now that she was in love with me. Well, by then I had moved on and I had found someone way better. Will it happen that way for you? I don't know. I only know that unrequited (unreturned) love sucks. We all deserve better than that.

Answer 2

Well you need to read your question. The answer is there. You have said that you need to walk away.

You need to cut all ties. Be strong.

You really do deserve someone who is looking for the real thing.
You are worth more then this and you know it in your heart that this relationship will never work. This is toxic behavior.

It's never easy to end a relationship. But you know that it needs to be done.

You can do this. Be strong. Stand tall. Tell him it has to be over for you. Lose his phone number, make a clean cut and fast.

Good wishes

Answer 3

Look, he may be a great guy, but he and you are after different things.....you know you have to take the difficult step, and walk away.....with your dignity, before HE dumps YOU for wanting too much, as that will make you feel even worse........as you know.
Be strong, walk away, and don't look back, you deserve more, and better..............and good luck........

Answer 4

well first of all you don't want a broken heart, so I think that you should just tell him staight out that you don't think you guys should be together anymore because you want more then what you have now and you know that he's not ready for that and see what he says. And if he doesn't want more then you know if you would of stuck around you would of been waisting your time...

Answer 5

sylvia i have been out of a relation similiar to yours ,i am a man only ,and i was standing in your shoes just like u r now,and honestly no benefit came only tons of heartache ,one sided love sucked the life out of me,almost killed evrything i have ,moments of weakness came i was so vulnerable like a leaf in the wind ,but i pulled myself together and i standed up again and i am strong on my own,one line for u ,forget him take it as a lesson for abetter tomorrow and dont let your precious heart be a chewing gum to who doesnt consider what u gave them ,