My ex broke up with me 3 and a half weeks ago. I have decided that no contact is best for another week to give her time to reflect if the break up is what she really wants. I plan on calling her and suggesting meeting for a coffee or lunch so that I can just "test the waters"
The one thing is that whilst we were together we made pretty big plans for this weekend. I got us tickets for her favourite band. Part of me wants to invite her as she was supposed to go!
Another part of me thinks that is a bad idea. The purpose of me giving her space was so she could think. If I invite her to something we planned as a couple she might interpret that as me trying to hard for us to get back together!
What do I do?
2007-02-28 07:15:35 · 10 answers · asked by bepositive1976 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no give her the space and take someone else. she will interpret your invitation as you trying to get back with her / smothering her.
Another thing is, people tend to take things for granted. If she realises that you are getting on with your life she might realise what she has lost. If she knows you are always there she might become more complacent and it could push you further apart anyway
2007-02-28 07:21:47 · answer #1 · answered by Chimera's Song 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what happens, you'll wonder what would have happened had you attended the event together. I suggest you call her, keep it casual, but tell her that you still have the tickets for the concert and wondered if she still wanted to attend since it's her favorite band. Then if she blows you off, you'll feel better about finding a 'replacement'. And if you do, ask the hottest chick you know to accompany her. That'll probably get her attention. In any event, it seems like you'd like for her to attend with you. Just take the cues from her if you do wind up going together, and determine if she wants to rekindle the romance. Otherwise, it could be the start to a solid friendship. You sound like a really nice guy. Good Luck
2007-02-28 15:21:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be completely honest I would think that this would be a bad idea as I have just broken up with my boyfriend and I really do still love him but I am aware that we can no longer be together because so much went wrong I suggest that in good faith give her the tickets as it would be a lovely reminder of all the planning you did together and who knows perhaps she might ask u to go.
2007-02-28 15:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id call her up and see how she feels about it. I mean tickets for a band are a pretty big deal, and you can keep the conversation casual. Just mention that you still have the tickets and ask what she wants to do aobut it. It may be she wants to go with you, it may be she wants to buy the tickets from you. But doing it in a casual way cant hurt anything.
2007-02-28 15:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by texas hearts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id be the better man. Give her the tickets. If you still like her, she might invite you with her, or take it as an appolige. Even if she doesnt except them, you will still feel like you tired. That is only if you like/love her and want to get back together, which thats wat it sound like. To make it romantic, send her the tickets with a note saying Im Sorry, and mail it. It will make her think, and hopefully you will get a call. Like you are trying to do, give her some space and be nice.
2007-02-28 15:23:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Phone her but don't invite her...
tell her that you understand that you're 'broke up' but your planing to go to the gig and that you know how much she was looking forward to it and would have no objection if she still wanted to go.
Its then down to her in a way, to ask to come.
If she Say's no, then she is saying she doesn't want to go and not that she isn't accepting your invitation.
2007-02-28 15:31:49 · answer #6 · answered by hrt2hrt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does she know that you have the tickets?if so,post them to her with a note saying the day would not have been the same without her and she can take a friend with your ticket ...she may even ask you to go!!!if you get no reply at least you know how you stand...cut your losses and rebuild
2007-03-04 11:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by pixelchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her up and ask her if she still wants to go but as friends. if she doesnt want to go then take someone else.just b prepared if she wants to go, dont make any moves on her or she will never come back. if she doesnt just go and have some fun with a friend, dont miss out because she isnt going.
2007-02-28 15:27:10 · answer #8 · answered by Natalie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you all did not need to break-up you may just needed sometime apart to sort out things. I bet you all will be back together soon.
2007-02-28 15:24:28 · answer #9 · answered by lyrics2732 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take someone else! Treat her mean to keep her keen. If that doesn't have her running back, nothing will x
2007-02-28 15:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by Away With The Fairies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋