should I stop making calls?

Question

I have a friend. I only always call her I rarely get a call from her side. And when I ask her Y she never calls me so she told me that she doesnt have money to call me or balance in her mobile.

She talks to me on the phone as long as I talk to her and our coversation is always funny and she tell me her probs and I tell her my problems and we try to solve it. I asked her many time that does she gets irritated by my calls, sometimes in a teasing manner she says that I eat her brain and sometimes she says she find me very childish she is 6 months older to me.

What bothers me is y cant she make a call to me. she calls to all other frnds bt to call me she always some excuse. she says she miss me. she sometimes buys gifts for me and she tells all her secrets only to me.

What do u think what is this going on?

please help!

Answer 1

The real problem here is not the one you are asking about. It's that you ask her all the time if you are bothering her. Always remember that you teach people how to treat you. You know yourself better than anyone so if you don’t feel that you are worthy and deserving of her friendship, why should she think you are? Your question may be about this girl, but she really isn’t the issue. Ask yourself why you feel so inadequate that you would think someone wouldn’t want to talk to you.
When we ask someone for constant reassurance we make them feel that they are responsible for our happiness. It’s too much pressure to put on someone and it makes then shy away from us. Plus, think about this. When you asked her is she was bothering you, if she had said “no, I’m happy to hear from you“, would you have believed her? Really? No, because inside yourself you don’t believe that could be true.
Take some time and realize all the great things about yourself that you will see if you try. They don’t have to be spectacular things, just times when you’ve been thoughtful, a good friend, shown patience, worked hard at something, etc. Once you do that you will know inside that people should be happy to be your friend, and you won’t have to ask anymore. We all go through this. And we all get through to the other side. Take care honey.

Answer 2

well first im not sure if your a guy or a chick, i know your picture is a sihlouette of a dude but everyones is a dude before you change it..
IF YOU ARE A DUDE:
she is playing you. friendship is a two way highway, she gives, you give - it is mutual. to me this friendship seems awfully one sided and that youre giving and shes not giving anything back. i think shes a bit 'snobby' if she thinks and openly tells you that she thinks you are childish. maybe next time she says that tell her shes got a stick up her as$ ha. maybe you are a little more immature but hey, everyones got a kid inside them an some ppls just grow up before others. of course she says she misses you and tells you all her secrets are only between u two - if she didnt, you wouldnt call her anymore would you!? and she wouldnt get all the attention anymore and as if shes not going to want that, shes obviously that type of person.

IF YOU ARE A CHICK:
think of it this way, if you stopped calling her, see how long it would take her to call you. if she never does, well obviousyl shes puttling less into the relatinoship than you are and by friendship standards, its not worth it - shes not a real friend. you say she can call all other friends but just not you.. do you not see anything wrong with that? i mean she sounds nice, you guys seem to still be able to talk about everything and anything, and even though the freindship is there, id have doubts that you guys are still going to be friends in 5 years time. just think about the way youre being treated maybe next time you could tell her how youre feeling and tell her its not good enough that she can somehow find time/money to ring other people but not you.. see how she reacts she might be extremely sorry and not realise thats how shes been acting with you.

either way, good luck.

Answer 3

I'm going to tell you what a good friend told me long time a go and yes it was a girl.

If you give your # to a girl and she doesn’t call you after you call her the first, she doesn’t like you.

So move on guy don't call her until she calls you five times, you have better things to do but waste you time on her.

Answer 4

Well i would stop calling her then. If you are friends it shouldn't be one-sided. Both should make the effort. So stop calling for a while and see what happens

Answer 5

You need to ask yourself is she a true friend. If you stop calling her so much she will start to wonder what happened. Stop calling her for a week and you will see if she is your friend or not.

Answer 6

It's possible that she wants to avoid being perceived by you as desperate or needy, but she does seem to respond to the attention you pay her. Just keep calling her instead. Maybe she wants to become your girlfriend instead--explore that possibility.

Answer 7

i think shes just using you when she has nothing better to do, if she was a true friend she would be calling you to check that alls well in your life

Answer 8

stop calling her 4 a while and if she is bothered about your Friendship she will call you. and if shes not shes not worth it xx

Answer 9

think about it, she can use er minutes when you call her....???? Don't call her again until she calls you, then you'll know your value in her life

Answer 10

You're her manpon (tampon + man). She has no respect for you. Get rid of her.