ive had two girlfriends the past year, both have said they love me afetr short time, been really passionate and fun at times, but both have ended very suddenly! weve parted and theyve both told me how special i am and that they love me but have both wanted to move on for different reasons...its like my relationships burn like magnesium instead of coal !!!
2007-02-28 07:06:44 · 17 answers · asked by Kal-El 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Chew it slowly.
Vanilla relationships don't last as long as the butterscotch ones do.
2007-02-28 07:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by Gaspode 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I totally feel you. I have been on that end of the stick for a long time. Usually, if relationships are hot and heavy in the beginning, they will not last long. They are passionate relationships, but that is the key word: passion. Once the passion and the newness of the relationship wears off, it's over. Try to find someone that is more than just passion to you.
2007-02-28 15:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant really tell someone how to make a relationship last. But you can lend some advice. Making a relationship work isnt always about being passionate(sexually), but you should also spend time together doing what each other likes. Maybe them telling you they love you they mean it but it may not mean they are In love with you. But to help smooth things out, try not dating but spending time with someone to see how far it goes. Take her to a movie, take her to lunch on a lunch break. Take the next girl you meet somewhere she would like to go. Enjoy both worlds.... Enjoy!
2007-02-28 15:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by courtney m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number One - TRUST/HONESTY
without trust/honesty you will never last no matter who you are. in the next relationship dont rush into it too much, i know you mention THEY are the ones that say they love you (you dont mention if you said it first etc), either way its not a bad thing if they dont 'fall in love' within a few months, sometimes a good relationship needs to grow. always be friends with them first. get to kown them and their personality before diving head first into being their partner. same with the 'passionate' reason - by this im assuming you mean sexually, a good relationship is never based on sex. yeah im not saying dont do it, more so dont leave that as teh basis of it. its not a problem if you and your nxt gf wait a while before having sex or getting really physical. sex should be more like icing on the cake, you should be happy with the cake to begin with and then if tehres icing have more of the attitude of "the cake was great and this is a perk of having the cake to begin with". think to yourselrf why are tehy leaving you so suddenly.. are you being clingy? are you being supportive? are you being considerate? are you respecting her? these are also important parts of a relationship. you should both have the attitude if you have arguments/disagreements that you will work it out, never go to sleep with the burden of a fight, always work out problems everyday.. good luck, im sure you will find the right girl one day =)
2007-02-28 17:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by WomanSoHeartless 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say the relationships were passionate and fun. There is a time to move on to something more serious. Could it be that they wanted you to move on to a greater commitment and that you missed their signals? Many people complain that a relationship was fun but that they wanted something deeper, more secure. Maybe you could think about what you girlfriend needs as the relationship develops and even ask her to be more open. I don't think you'll upset her by asking her sincere questions.
2007-02-28 15:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by Andrew G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking and showering attention on someone every single day is quickly going to become boring for them.
You need to go out and do things with other people, other friends, live your life for yourself and forget about them. Make them miss you a little and let them come to you. If they don't, it's their loss and you have a lot to keep yourself busy with.
Keep things interesting, fun, and unpredictable. Predictability is one of the things that kills any spark in a relationship, so be different from the rest!
2007-02-28 15:13:51 · answer #6 · answered by SeaBass 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to slow things down up front and make them work for your affection/attention. If they're looking for someone to be all hot and heavy with them, and you give in, it will be really awesome for a very short period of time. Just as soon as it started, it's over. Make them work.
2007-02-28 15:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitment
Integrity
Breathing Room
Trust
Communication
2007-02-28 15:09:27 · answer #8 · answered by caretaker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's the girls that have had the problem not you. I'm always suspicious of peoples' feelings when they "fall in love" too quickly. Fall in quickly, fall out quickly. Maybe the next girl will have more depth, and take her time! Good luck.
2007-02-28 15:11:51 · answer #9 · answered by jet-set 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both people have to be committed and work on the relationship. Otherwise you don't have a partership and its time to find someone else.
2007-02-28 15:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by hello 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fair play to you for having too girlfriends on the go,were they both at the same time?
2007-02-28 15:14:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋