Is there any way to do this? It's a relative, so I can't offend her or anyone in the family. I don't think I'm going to be able to un-ask her, so I'll probably just have to deal with it, and not invite someone I'd rather have be in it. Is there any way to do this nicely without offending anyone?
2007-02-28 07:03:10 · 16 answers · asked by Famous Amos {not the cookies} 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes, by "in my wedding", I meant in the bridal party.
2007-02-28 08:20:17 · update #1
Personally, I think that unasking would be very rude. Especially if they are being replaced. I think that once you make your choice and inform people, you have to stick with it. Had you decided this before telling the person, it'd have been fine. Perhaps you can find something else for the person you want to add to do.
2007-02-28 07:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think that if you have a good enough reason you could un-ask her. You could even lie and say that you had asked your other friend first and she said that she wouldn't be able to make it due to she was in another wedding (or something that sounds good)and that that wedding got moved back or something and now she is able to to be in it. If you say it in the nicest way possible and as long as the girl hasn't put up any money then I think she should understand. This happened to me too and I like found the most expensive bridesmaid dress possible hoping that the girl would back out but she didn't. But thanks to my good luck and her lack of good friendship skills she never went to order the dress and she never called me about it so I ordered them without her. So fortunately it worked out to my benfit. But you could always ask both friends and add another groomsman. If your fiance has somebody else in mind too. Good Luck!
2007-02-28 07:33:00 · answer #2 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the wedding party right? Bridesmaid/Groomsman?
1st there's no reason why you can only have one and not the other. You can have as many or few attendants as you want.
2nd it's "your day" but you need to think about if this is worth causing a rift in the family. You need to think about what is really important.
and 3rd if there really is a good reason (i.e. it's REALLY going to ruin your wedding) then by all means, unask. Otherwise, let it go.
Good luck!
2007-02-28 07:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by dznique 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, there is no way to nicely un-ask someone to be in your wedding without offending them. But if there is someone else you want to be in your bridal party, why don't you just add them?
2007-02-28 07:11:52 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's tough...unfortunately she is family, especially after the wedding what is going to happen, what does your (husband) think about it?? ask him.. maybe that will relieve some pressure is there anyway you can have both people invited to your wedding, I am sure the more people the more fun the less wasting food, make sure everyone RSVP so you have to give anyone the booth. sorry tough one.
2007-02-28 07:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by mommy2be 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why not just invite the other person and have both in the wedding. You already invited the other person and I don't think there is any way to uninvite someone tactfully, so I don't think that's really possible...
2007-02-28 07:11:27 · answer #6 · answered by happily married ( : 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Doesn't sound like you can, sorry. Why did you ask in the first place? It's a touchy subject but you have to do what you want. Good luck.
2007-03-03 15:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you can't uninvite someone that is tacky. You can ask her if she is coming so if she is not you can invite someone else. If you tell her she can't come it is insulting and offensive. Look on the bright side she may bring a great gift!!
2007-02-28 07:08:27 · answer #8 · answered by nylatinanurse 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
is it for the actual attendants (standing up) for your wedding or inviting someone to your wedding. Unclear.
2007-02-28 07:21:38 · answer #9 · answered by Brown Eyed Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will look soooo bad if you do that. Not to mention, tacky.
If she's your family, just keep her in there. Unless you totally can't stand her. But either way, it's "low classy."
2007-03-01 00:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋