My frnd was not giving me much attention so I started avoiding her since two days I am not talking to her properly. I pretended like I am tensed abt something and thats y could not talk to her much. I used to run at her 1st call, I used to make her smile all the time when she talks to me. but since two days I didnt do that and today she was tired and busy still mailed me asking how am I and was telling abt her day.
what do u think, is this working? or what do u think abt the whole matter? what shall I do further? its only two days that I have started doing that and she doesnt know what is the reason behind it. I dont think that she even knows she is being avoided. I want to let her know that she is losing a good friend like me and I want her to stop me and ask me whats wrong with me. what shall I do to get her attention? please help. I care for her all I want in return care from her side too, which I often dnt get from her side. please help me!
2007-02-28 07:01:34 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You're dong good. Keep doing it for a entire week. Then, after the week, tell her why you've been like that. Explain to her how you would like to be treated and that you dont want the friendship to end.
Some people just need to be reminded how good they have it. No one knows what they really have until they lose it.
2007-02-28 07:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by Java Chip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you 2 been friends? It sounds to me like you've probably grown up together, moved from teenagers to adults and maybe have now just outgrown each other?? If you feel you have to do something to get her attention - even to the point of ignoring her, and she's not responding - then you're definitely not friends. That's highlighted moreso by the fact that you can't even talk to each other about what's bothering you. Perhaps it's time you widened your circle of friends and stopped just relying on her for help and support. You never know, once she realises that you have a life away from her, she might make more of an effort to get you back. Why don't you try talking to her about how you are feeling? At the very least it'll make you feel better for getting it off your chest...
2007-03-01 00:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by Pink girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really should talk to your friend b4 it is too late! If she is emailing u asking how u are she believes u are busy, but she still cares enough to be thinking about u and make an effort to catch up.
Try and sit down with her & talk about ur feelings. She probably doesn't even know that there is a problem. Avoidance from ur side will only end up making u both bitter in the long run and destroy what was a wonderful friendship.
2007-02-28 07:39:09 · answer #3 · answered by Cass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your best friend and tell her how you feel. Playing a game of avoiding her is too stressful and may not get the point across. If she's your best friend, you should be able to talk to her about things, and she'll probably apperciate you more for being honest and mature about it. Hoping that she realizes what's going on might just make her mad when she realizes you were playing a game, and hurt that you couldn't talk to her about it. She's more prone to listening if you just communicate with her.
2007-02-28 07:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Bored with Questions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who ever she is she a nice girl and she doesn't deserve for you to be ignoring her.The thing is this: She's a real popular and likable person in your school and probably has a whole lot of friends,and hardly pays much attention to you cause of that.What you need to is sit down with her and tell her your feels.She will eventually realize who her true friends really are.............
Don't be too selfish
2007-02-28 07:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by Smokie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of playing games, be direct with her.
Sit her down face to face and tell her how her behaviour has made you feel. Hopefully she will apologise and her attitude will improve.
If it doesn't, then maybe it's time to widen your circle of friends and accept that she is not able to be the kind of friend you would like.
2007-02-28 07:07:43 · answer #6 · answered by annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That first sentence could desire to have informed you precisely what you may desire to do. If those acquaintances are making you experience undesirable approximately your self then they are no longer acquaintances. i've got had acquaintances that weren't good for me. grew to become me onto medications, loud, obnoxious, bullies. I had adult males who i ought to've had relationships with turn remote from me because of the fact of my 'acquaintances'. So, I have been given sparkling, started out distancing myself from the gang and have been given extra suited acquaintances. people who weren't so loud and obnoxious I frolicked with the the remainder of highschool. Now, i do no longer communicate over with any of them. Your no longer likely to finally finally end up by myself and depressing. particular that's going to be difficult no longer having somebody to talk to whilst your dealing with themes for awhile yet there are a number of a lot of human beings available.
2016-12-18 12:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're doing the right thing. You're just re-establishing the goalposts i.e. that it takes effort from both sides!
However, if you subsequently find her behaviour reverts to type, you are going to have to talk to her about give and take on both sides. Good luck!
2007-02-28 07:04:39 · answer #8 · answered by hevs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to grow up, stop playing mind games. You are probably obsessing over your plan whilst she ia non the wiser. You are an attention seeker.
2007-02-28 08:45:10 · answer #9 · answered by Blackheath rugby wife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront her ... maybe she really hasnt even noticed things are bad between you guys . You need to tell her how you feel maybshe would start being considerate toward your feelings if she new you were feeling this way. Or you need to ask yourself if she is truly even best friend worthy
2007-02-28 07:06:28 · answer #10 · answered by tosh2790 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋