my friend is depressed and cries all the time. she has a boyfriend who is really supportive but she is away from him at the moment because she is on a school trip. i feel really bad because our different college subject courses means that we see less of each other and i think our friendship has suffered because of this. how can i make her feel better?
2007-02-28 06:59:57 · 9 answers · asked by Andy P 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
you could remind her that you think she is special, that that you value her. you could get her to smile..only you know how. you could remind her in indirect ways how cool she is, or smart or whatever. you could remind her that you really do want to be a part of her life...
my only concern is that if you do that, she might think you are trying to woo her :D
feed her chocolate. go do something she likes with her when you have time.
2007-02-28 07:04:06 · answer #1 · answered by lyrathefairie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally I say listen to her, and you should. But I will add this, sometimes focusing on our problems make them seem bigger than what they actually are. You want to make her feel better talk her into getting all fancied up and doing something fun this weekend. Take her out for a nice dinner and pretend that nothing is wrong. Notice something about her that is great and tell her about. Let her know how valuable she is to you, and try to get her to think about her future. I think that sometimes we just get stuck in a rut and need to be refocused. I believe that you could do that for her.
2007-02-28 15:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, she needs to accept that she is suffering from depression, then ask her to get medical help and to actually do everything the doctor suggest to do. All that you could do is TRY! to be there for her. My ex-best friend suffered from this and I was trying to helped her, well I turn out to be the bad person because I tried too hard! that our friendship was damaged and done!. I hope this doesn't happend to you. Good luck to you and your friend.
2007-02-28 15:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by alma c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing, IMO, is just "being there." there's usually very little you can do to make the depression less, but you can make it easier to bear by being a shoulder if she needs it. You don't even have to go far out of your way. just make a point to say hello, call or email; show her she's important to you.
2007-02-28 15:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by Robin the Brave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out what her hobbies are and take an interest. At least this way you can have more of a common ground when you talk to her and you'll peak her interest. The last thing you want to be is boring.
2007-02-28 15:06:43 · answer #5 · answered by kimchee_boi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...you can't make anyone be/do/have anything.
the choice is the person's to make.
she will feel better knowing you care and have an interest in her personal health.
let her know that....it will be worth whatever it is worth to her needs.
and if she do not need it (respect it)........the conditions of your friendship are being revealed. and then you may ask of her what the relationship brings to each of you.
best wishes to both of you ... be well.
2007-02-28 15:06:39 · answer #6 · answered by noninvultuous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a call once in a while, listen to her, take her out on the weekends.
2007-02-28 15:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by boricua_chick_21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to get her to keep her mind of of her sadness, go out for some coffee, go shopping, go clubbing, have fun!
2007-02-28 15:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by Gloria B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
encourage her to make a dr. appt. and go with her.
2007-02-28 15:03:32 · answer #9 · answered by lisa m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋