My girlfriend calls me a liar! what should I do?

Question

At first I lied to my girlfriend inorder to protect her feelings... she found out that I lied several times and now she don't stop asking me questions about my past.. I promised her to tell her every single detail about my past on what we called a "confession day" several days afterwards, she asked me some questions about my past and it seems that I forgot to tell her these details on the confession day and she started doubting me and interrogating me again... I tiered of this I know that my past won't do any good to this relationship and will be harmful to both of us that was the reason I didn't tell him all the truth from the beging but now I am stuck and tiered of her continous questions... please help what should I do?!

Answer 1

Get a new girlfriend.

Answer 2

Sounds like she suspects you of lying because you lie. So step one: Stop lying. But also try to explain to her that there are things in your past you aren't necessarily proud of and that you aren't that person anymore. Let her know that you only kept things from her because you were afraid of her reaction, but now that you feel you can trust her, you don't have any more reason to lie. But you're also going to need some trust from her going forward and she needs to understand that not every single detail from your past has something to do with the present, especially if things she's asking about happened before you even met her. Everyone is allowed some measure of privacy.

If she still keeps on with the doubts, even after you really come clean, then you might have to call it a day. Once trust is lost, it can be hard to salvage. And lack of trust is a definite relationship killer.

Answer 3

wow my boyfriend did the same thing. The thing is once a guy lies once to us we figure he'll do it again. So its really hard to trust again. Basically my boyfriend lied to me about something and after that i couldnt trust him because he was hiding it from me for so long that it made me doubt him. So my advice to you is tell her all your confessions and tell her that it was in the past and that you've changed alot and that from now on you will be honest with her. And of course mean it. Find some way little by little to gain her trust back. It will probably take time but it will be worth it if you two truly love eachother.

Answer 4

Break up and get on with your life.

1. Stop lying.
2. Never agree to answer questions about your PRIVATE past. Past relationships are just that -- in the past! Don't bring them up.
3. Never agree to "confession days." Confession is for a church and between you and a priest.

Answer 5

I think that your past shouldn't matter and you two should be thinking about a future with one another. Pick a day to treat her nice. Make breakfast or take her to get her nails done and tell her that you are sorry and from now on you want to think about the future. If she doesn't understand then you should see that she is immature and you need to either be alone or find someone else.

Answer 6

You will never win, get a new girlfriend.

I've always believed that everyone lies (including me), but if you already confessed to you lying to her before, I think that's a good deed. But if she's not going to believe anything you tell her anymore, you can't win being with her. Tell her to quit asking questions that she might not like the answers to.

Answer 7

Her insecurities are her problem, not yours! You are correct, your past has nothing to do with her, and will probably only cause problems if you tell her about it. It isn't any of her business! As long as you are faithful to her, and treat her well, what you've done in your past is irrelevant. You just need to tell her exactly how you feel about her interrogations, and if it doesn't stop, you may need to move on! Good luck!

Answer 8

Your past is none of her business. Nor is hers any of yours. It didn't involve her/you then and still doesn't.

That is a sign of immaturity to NEED to know all the details. Don't tell her anything, then you can't be accused of lying. If that doesn't work, move on. Never make the mistake of spilling your guts again!

Answer 9

hey .
i to have had a similar problem in my life. i was at the time married and wasnt happy in the marriage. i met someone and had no intentions of falling in love with this man but i did. so at first i never told him i was married. he had told me he was seperated and i still did not tell him about marriage. we talked for about three weeks online and even planned to meet. he said all the things i was longing for my hubby to say to me. but one day i decided it was not fair to him for me to lie about being married, so i told him. this made him angry and i knew it would. i told him why i had done it and that i hadnt lied about anything else, but it has taken him about 4 weeks to return an e-mail i sent him. i guess what i am getting at is if you truly love your gf then tell her the complete truth and talk to her about how she feells about what you tell her and ask for forgivness and tell her how you feel about her now. if she really loves you then she will soon forgive you and slowly begin to put it behind you and you will both be able to go on with your relationship. i felt like i had been hit by a ton of bricks when i saw his reaction to what i had said, but he is worth every second it takes to wait for him. so you should decide if it is worth waiting on bf to forgive you or if you should just move on and be with someone else. you should know i am not telling you to leave her, i just ment that you should think about what is best for you and what will make you happy in life. good luck and best wishes to you.

Answer 10

You know she's never going to get over it, right? She'll be a warden for the remainder of time you're with her. Mind you, I don't condone this type of female behavior, but quite frankly, you brought it on yourself.

Answer 11

Ask her what you need to do to gain her trust again...to be honest, you're not helping by "forgetting" to tell her things during the confession day.