i grew up in a family were we are not close when it comes to our feelings and emotions, we would never talk about or personal emotional problems. when i would sleep over at my friends houses or boyfiends houses i see that all their families are in tune with each and every family members feelings, now i thought about it sand im wondering that when i have my own family one day, if i could change that,?what do you think?
2007-02-28 06:49:18 · 11 answers · asked by SugaLova 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It takes work. I heard someone once say that when we reach adulthood, we're like baked cookies. To change is like having pieces of ourselves broken and that usually gets messy. But change can be healthy and good.
There are different ways families relate to one another. Some of the really close ones are actually what is called, "Enmeshed" where there is no boundaries and healthy separation & independence. Other families are too independent and too individualistic - like roommates living together w/o the healthy, emotional bonding that families need.
And then there are the two basic ways people express their love - one verbal/touch and the other task - doing something for the one they love instead of saying it. The latter tend to hold the thinking that "words are cheap" and tend to have a task oriented personality. The former are more relational by nature and like the "warm fuzzy" feelings which words, affection and hugs can bring.
2007-02-28 15:04:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You seem very aware of something your family is lacking. This actually is something you are craving or you would not notice it. Therefore, you will most likely break that chain when you have a family and you will LOVE. This sounds like my family and I turned out to be a very very VERY loving person
because I thought it was weird, too. My siblings, on the other hand are somewhat distant and find it normal.
2007-02-28 14:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by RJsGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I grew up the same way my family un-affectionate, but my best friends mother taught me to show my feelings and learn to share my emotions of hugging and caring and that it was ok, so my son is shown and told everyday how much I love him and he is a very happy loved child.
2007-02-28 14:54:05 · answer #3 · answered by Tigerluvr 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course you can change that! You can start to change that with your family now. It just takes time to open up to each other, especially if no one's really used to it. You can start by suggesting that you all have dinner together..........
2007-02-28 14:56:43 · answer #4 · answered by candy- capped 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my family is the same, I will make sure to change that when I marry
2007-02-28 14:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by AMS 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, i think that you can change that. well my mother alway wants me to tell her how im feelin bout sometimes i cant talk to my mom like i can talk to my friends and my boyfriend. its like she never understands what im sayin. but if you love someone you should tell that person b4 its to late.
2007-02-28 15:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by *ShannonMae* 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you can, as long as you really want to make the change, it should happen fairly easily.
2007-02-28 14:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by missyhardt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
of course you can! everyone is the maker of their own destiny! you can make your own decisions and choose another family as role models instead of your own.
2007-02-28 14:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
find a nice person and just take a chance. you will love them and know because you are willing to take a chance. do not stress love will find you. you will not find love.
good luck
2007-02-28 14:54:09 · answer #9 · answered by Cassie B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋