I have been depressed now for 3 days, i have stopped getting ready i feel like i want to die what can i do to?

Question

get myself out of this? i dont wont medication, i just want to be happy again. I really have nothing to be depressed about thats the weird thing. I have a lovely new bf, a beautiful son a new house. I just woke up the other day and felt really tired, now i get out of bed dont get washed or do my hair/makeup take my son to school then go home a do nothing. I feel so down my head actually feels really heavy. I cant smile not even at jokes. Its awful feeling. Im drinking wine tonight and its not helping one bit. What can i do to get out of this? please help me :(

Answer 1

First, I have to say, I've been where you are, along with many other women. Second, know that it does get better and sooner than you would expect.

The things you are avoiding, like brushing your hair, teeth and getting dressed - Do them. It's the first step. Next, get out of the house. I understand that you have a son, but please find a sitter. If you are a stay at home Mom like I was, this is doubly important. When thinking of places to go, try and find somewhere outdoors, even if it's cold.

Here's a list of other remedies:
Go for a walk, even if it's around the block
Call a friend. Make one if you don't have any.
Join playdate groups with other Mom's and their kids
- These women have a lot of insight and have been where you are.
Let your husband know you need his support right now and that you're working on getting better.
Everyday: get up, get dressed and do your makeup.
Start a calendar of activities, even if it's just to schedule walking the dog. This gets your mind in a planning mode and out of a slump.
Deep breathing exercises.

If you have recently had your son, please consider post-partum depression is a possibility and there are treatments. Please speak with your family doctor regardless.

Answer 2

First, your age is a determiner--menopause or a shift in your hormones or or your brain chemistry has changed--that requires a doctor visit and bloodwork. You talk with your bf about this, if you can. Assess your self....get online and go to webmd and do a checklist to see if you are clinically depressed. Many people go for several years not realizing they are depressed. They simply believe there is no more out there for them and they give up. I was one of those people, except mine was diagnosed early when I was 18. I completed my college degree and all was well until I was 32, I am 34 now. I had a hysterectomy when I was 30 and that really rocked my world. Then I was diagnosed with PTSD, and receiving weekly treatment for that. Medicine is not bad--I refused until I was about 26 and I had it and finally given up the fight. I SUGGEST YOU SEE YOUR OB/GYN OR YOUR PCP for the answer. Depression is a serious disorder, and the sooner you take care of it, the better.

Answer 3

Depression is very common in women, and most certainly can happen for no reason. Going through changes or extra stress can cause chemical imbalances.

I go through spouts when I feel really depressed and don't want to get out of bed, and I find it usually happens when I'm really stressed at work, or something else that's beyond my control. Try talking to your boyfriend about it. Or maybe start going to therapy.

Don't worry, unless you experience these symptoms for more than 6 months, you don't need meds. These feelings can be controlled with alternative therapies. Try joining depression message boards and other support groups online. Other people will be going through what you're going through, and you can all exchange ideas that help.

In the meantime, just make sure your boyfriend is aware of how you're feeling. He might be able to help just be supporting you through a difficult time.

Answer 4

hey there! some good advice has already been given, especially the exercise bits but come on people, i'll get depressed if I hear of people throwing wine away, maybe put the cork back in for 2moro but surely throwing it away is a bit harsh no? it sounds to me like maybe you know what would make you feel better yourself, i.e. have a wash, do your hair&make up, do the things you once did which occupied your time or start a new hobby, socialise, and the main two things which i thought most women would have mentioned by now = RETAIL THERAPY & CHOCOLATE! Chin Up!

Answer 5

One thing for sure, seek professional help, they don't all require you to take medication. Lots of people with seemingly perfect lives get severely depressed. The wrong thing to do is try to resolve it yourself, booze and drugs will only make things worse.
If you have family or friends who you can confide in, do it and don't wait. You have a son, kids can detect your mood/problem. You are also affecting his life. More and more info is coming out about depression, it is fixable, but you need to take a major step and get help. It is not frowned on or looked down upon like it used to be, good luck!

Answer 6

dear depressed,
i hope this depression is not a pms,maybe it's because of a health related problem , go for a health check up soon,
it might be because of discontentment and dissatisfaction, if u don't get what u want out of life and suppress that feeling, its gone for that time but later on at some point of time our body and mind react and take out the aggression in some way.wine smoking etc will just worsen the problem so stop it,cheer up,live life queen size! take some time out for yourself,do what u like the most,give urself a break,chill out ,find the problem and deal with it,life is 2 precious 2 want to end it just because,don't let urself go.

Answer 7

First off, all alcohol acts on the body as a depressant, so stop drinking it.
Secondly, your depression is likely caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain. If that's the case, the only help is medication. Give it a try.
You don't have to feel like this.

Answer 8

Look, you need help there are many ways to get help.
One if you feel like you are going to die and if its that serious , please seek professional help,

Believe me , I had suffered with depression and still dealing with it, You can start by looking at your life trying to figure out why you are not happy?
Is it that you have a void in your life, a big empty hole?
Always remember you are not alone , you just have to reach out for him, and he will help you. He I mean is God, He can fulfill your life and make you whole, make the depression , the hurt , go away he will help. All you have to do is make the step.
Do you belong to a church, if not you can find one and talk to the pastor for help. Do you have a bible read the bible and pray to God for help.
I hope this helps.

Answer 9

Three days of feeling depressed doesn't yet constitute mental illness. If it goes on for longer than two weeks, you should see a psychiatrist. Unless you are afraid of doing harm to yourself or others; then you should talk to someone right away. In the event you end up having to take pills, there's no shame in that. I understand not wanting to, but is it better to eschew drugs but be miserable, or take them and feel well? But I hope you don't have to, and I hope you feel better soon.

Answer 10

I had anemia once when I was young and felt like that. My parents were wiggin' out because they thought it was depression, then they took me to the doctor and found out it was low blood iron.
You should go get checked out.

I now have PTSD from being in the Marines and being a cop, but I exercise and take vitamins, walk my dog, and take my girlfriend out a lot, and it helps. You have to be the one in control. What I deal with now is deeper than the anemia when I was a kid, but I know what to do about it.