we were dating for a few weeks then came a night when we were both drunk and had sex, and also changed our relationship status on facebook to be "in a relationship". To be honest, we both didnt remember much of that night but I was kinda happy that we were "in a relationship". Last night he told me that we needed to take a step back and should go back to dating again, because he thought we didnt know each other well enough to be in a relationship. He said he still liked me and still wanted to take me out but we needed to take it slow. I feel like he just wants to make himself available to other girls so he can date more than one girl at a time and is afraid of committment. Am I right?
2007-02-28 06:43:48 · 7 answers · asked by kittytie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In my conservative thinking mind you shouldnt be having sex with anyone until you really, really know them. That is, if a relationship is your intent. Sex puts things on another level that most people arent ready for after just a few weeks. It makes things very weird because now it feels like you have to act it an elevated comfort zone around the person just because of sex and not because of natural feelings. If he wants to legitametly take it slow its because he wants to get to know you more so your relationship isnt merely based on sex. But dont get played either, if he acts this way 3 or 4 months from now, thats when you get out
2007-02-28 06:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to me a few weeks is to quick to be in a relationship. But since you guys were intimate, maybe thats all he wanted. But I feel as though you need to just either keep it moving or just stick around for sex (if it was good) with no strings attached. You have to do some of these guys they way they do us. But dont put all your emotions into this guy if you do decide to go back to dating.
2007-02-28 14:51:06 · answer #2 · answered by Tricia O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he's afraid of commitment, then you need to let him go and move on with your life! What's the point on "taking it slowly" if he's willling to date other women and isn't really interested in establishing a relationship with you? Besides, you deserve better than that! Good luck!
2007-02-28 14:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds u know the explanation,sex part has freaked him out ,he thinks maybe u will want to more serious and put him on a full relation exclusively ,and he wanst freedom ,who knows better than u ,but if he isnt into u i think he would have said it,be patient and take it day at a time
2007-02-28 14:49:02 · answer #4 · answered by reifguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...that could be true and not! Just see what happens and try not to have sex with him again until you know his motives
2007-02-28 14:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is mistreating you or using you tell him you have people to see and places to go without him and move on if he gets jealous and wants you back .... consider it but if he dont get jealous then honey move on
2007-02-28 14:48:23 · answer #6 · answered by smilingontime 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you shall break up with him, since he took advantage of you.
2007-02-28 14:47:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋