I do not like my girlfriends best friend and it does annoy her sometimes.. I will bring it up to her several times.. The only reason is because she is very reserved but the friend is outgoing and always flirting.. I do not want my girlfriend to turn out like that. I trust my gf but I feel that if her friend starts to hang out with her more, at a nightclub her friend might influence her to dance with another guy.
What do I do and if I keep bringing it up will it bother her? or Kill our relationship
2007-02-28 06:37:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sure she doesn't like all of your friends either. Remember, you're dating her and not her friend. Maybe she likes her friend because she needs and outlet for all that stuff you don't want her to become, or maybe they have a long history.
I would bet you that she'd choose her friend over you, so don't push the subject with her. Instead, concentrate on being a good boyfriend so that she doesn't feel any temptation to want to dance with other guys at a nightclub!
2007-02-28 06:52:44 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look for a smart way to deal with that. Keep telling your girlfriend that the reason you're with her and not with her best friend is because of who she is. Otherwise you might be tempted to check out her best friend too, no? Anyway, find a sensible way to say that or give that message to her. In any case, do not break them up. My husband does not like my best friend at all, and it's mostly because he does not understand her. He told me that and I was hurt. The next time the subject came up he said that he liked the way I was and not because I wasn't like my best friend. That in the long run saved me from conformity. I like to be different, and that's what makes me attractive to him. After a while, him and I became best friends, and my best friend is in the third position. That doesn't mean that I quit on her at all. It just means that I adjusted my priorities. That's all, and she totally understands my commitment. It's a little different for you because you're not married. But if you try to come out too strong about this, you will blow her away. Don't bring it up all the time. You will only show yourself insecure to your GF. You don't want to do that. Girls don't stick around with an insecure guy. They need him as a stronghold. Rather, be cool about it, and rise above the situation. You'll be scoring more points that way. If she's displaying some of her friend's behaviors, ignore it, instead of getting all worked up, and after the moment passes do tell her why you like /love her so much. Find ways to communicate to her that her uniqueness is what turns you on, without including negative things about her gf/ this way you shoot two birds with a single bullet. You make her want to be like herself more, and you draw her closer to you. Capische?
2007-02-28 06:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by Pivoine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a girls best friend has a very big influence on her. Everything from what to wear to who to date. If your girlfriend is reserved than that is her personality not her friends and you can't change a persons personality that easily. You like her and you stated that your trust her so go with that and don't talk about her friend because that will make her mad. The best thing is become friends with her girlfriend. They say keep your friends close but your enemies closer. I am not saying her girlfriend is your enemy but if you get to know her friend better than you will understand why they are friends. Her friend is part of her do you are going to have to deal with it besides you don't want to control her do you? So what if she dances with some else that means nothing.
2007-02-28 06:46:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They have different pesonalities and she shouldn't choose her best friend over you! Besides, you shouldn't place your girlfriend in a compromising position just because you don't like her best friend! If you trust your girlfriend, then why bother feeling this way? You need to stop worrying about your girlfriends' best friend and killing the relationship with your girlfriend will make things worse.
2007-02-28 06:41:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm..... well it could possibly have a negative effect on your relationship if you keep bringing it up; but talk to your girl friend and explain to her your concerns.
Bear in mind that she might disregard your concerns but still love you. Your girlfriend may be an adult and shouldn't be affected by peer pressure. Now if you are all minors (under 18yrs old) then it is another situation entirely.
Good luck and I hope this helps
2007-02-28 06:44:17 · answer #5 · answered by dymps 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohh, tough luck. You've got a good point, but why don't you just hang out with her when she goes with her friend to night clubs and stuff. And spend more time with her, showing her that you really like her...she'll be less tempted if her bff ever tries to perswade her into dancing with another guy. Other than that...you said you trust her, so don't worry about it, if your relationship is really worth something to her she won't dance with another dude.
2007-02-28 06:44:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
come on, i believe you know the answer to that. Just like a guy, girls don't want to be told what they should and should not do. i believe guys consider that nagging. so i feel that if it was truly meant to be with your girlfriend then you should let her go out and have her fun, although you may not want to hear that, but just to let you know, that if you don't, then in the future, if you do end up together, she may throw this back in your face 3 kids later, and tell you how she is tired of being with you you for those exact reasons. I have been through this, and i ended up letting my boyfriend go out and have his occasional fun and not getting jealous or asking too many questions, and it worked out, now we're married. good luck
2007-02-28 06:43:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lovely 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She won't lose her best friend for you. It can only kill your relationship. If your GF is reserved, I can't see her flirty friend turning her that way too. They are two different people, with two different personalities. So quit worrying about your GF being like her friend. If you trust your GF, quit bugging her about her friends.
2007-02-28 06:41:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, grow up. Your afraid she will "dance with another guy". That is honestly one of the most childish and selfish things I have ever heard. You should do your girlfriend a favor and stop the relationship, guys like you are pathetic.
2007-02-28 06:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by starbrite 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
whether you like her or not shes not going to stop being your girlfriends bestfriend. So you can stop trying to change that. Now you say that you trust your girlfriend....if you really trusted your gf you wouldnt be questioning whether the fact she might do something behind your back...if she loves you she wouldnt hurt you ...Dont kill your relationship...let it go or she will you
2007-02-28 06:47:36 · answer #10 · answered by tosh2790 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋