my son is 3 years and 4 mos old and still isn't potty trained??

Question

Can anyone give me any advice. My son still isn't potty trained. He refused to wear big boy underwear and throws a huge crying fit when I try to put them on him or ask him which ones he wants to wear(he has many different kinds he picked out) and he goes and gets his diapers himself. And/or yells for his diaper and wants only that.
We have tried pull ups, the cold sensitive ones..etc. and nothing seems to work. We give him stickers when he does use the potty to pee.
When he was 2 years old he used the potty for pee and poop for about 2 weeks and then reverted back to diapers. I just thought it was too soon to go then and so I didn't push him to use the potty. I figured he would go and use it when he was ready.

Now I am concerned that he is still in diapers at 3 years and 4 mos old. Oh and I am having another baby. I am due June 2nd and I really thought my son would be out of diapers by now.
any advice?????????????

Answer 1

First of all DONT make it your aim to have him potty trained before the baby comes - parents make this mistake and then the child goes straight back to wetting themselves when the baby arrives because of the big change! Hes just a little later than most children at getting potty trained but i do know children this age who still wet themselves! You are going to have to throw dipers out completly so he cant find them!

Exolain to him that you are going to take him to the toliet every 30mins until he can learn to tell u when he needs to go.

Let him throw tantrums, it will take alot of effort but he will catch on!

Answer 2

Don't feel like it is your fault. My son picks out the unders he wants at the store and still won't go in the potty for me. He will go at the sitters house but as soon as he gets home he doesn't want to go and he will be 4 in August. You just have to be consistent with him. Tell him that he needs to go and sit on the potty. Don't give him the option. And when he does go make it seem like a huge deal where he will want to go all time. And I do agree that he might convert back to wetting himself when the new baby gets here because it is a huge change he once had mommy all to himself and now he has to share you. Also try the school concept I have been telling my son that the sooner he goes on the potty the sooner he will be able to go to school. That seems to work. I hope I helped.

Answer 3

My son will be 4 in aug and we are potty training still, hes good most of the time, only wears a diaper at night, and during the day hes naked, and this helps alot, hes good in regular underwear when we go out too,we still have accidents, but i would suggest nothing, then he will start to go and know there isnt any other choice but to use the toliet, and when summer hits i have heard of boys peeing outside, they love it, its a boy thing. hope that helps.

Answer 4

This is the way I toilet trained my twin 3 1/2 year old boys. It worked for us, but whatever way you choose, consistency is the most important thing.

We started on a day that we had nothing to do and could just stay home all day. We loaded them up on juice and water as soon as they woke up so they would have to pee all day giving them the most chances of success. My husband and I bought them fun Disney underwear of their favorite characters for them to wear. My husband and I also spent all day walking around in fun underwear so the boys would want to be like us. We started out in the morning with them in their Pullups and when they went potty for the first time that day in the toilet, they could pick out the underwear that they wanted to wear that day. We just put their chosen underwear on over their Pullups in case we didn't make it again. We put M&Ms in a glass cup near the toilet for a few days and when they went potty, they could pick some. This let them see what the prize was. We later moved to stickers or something else. We made a HUGE deal for the first couple of days and then tapered off the excitement. We also made them watch us go potty so that they knew that is what "big people" do and it was expected since they are no longer babies. We took the "puppy" approach. Everytime after they eat, play, wake up from a nap, etc. we put them on the toilet. This gave them the most chances for success to make it in the toilet, which made them feel the most successful. We would sit them on the toilet at times about every 30-60 minutes, whether they needed to go or not. If they didn't go, we let them know that it was ok, but they needed to at least try. Once they were able to know what it "feels like" when they need to go (about a week or two later) we lightened up on the every 30-60 minutes. On the occasion that we had an accident, we took off the underwear that they picked and if they wanted to get it back, they had to go in the toilet again. We tried very hard to not make it a shameful thing, but just explain to them that they had to earn it. My husband and I acted like we were very happy to be in our silly undies and the boys felt that they were missing out on the fun if they didn't have fun undies on too. We took lots of pictures of them in their silly undies and those are some of their favorite pictures a year later. Because they are twins, they competed against each other (which helped a great deal!) and they kept wanting to out do each other. We let them tease each other if one had an accident and the other one was more successful. This made them not want to be teased by their brother anymore and was also another incentive for them to be successful.

This worked for us and a few of our friends. We still have had accidents, but anything is better than having to change them all the time. We found that if we make it fun instead of a frustrating thing for them, they wouldn't get so discouraged if they had an accident. Just be patient and they will want to make you happy and go on their own eventually.

Answer 5

Potty coaching isnt something that could properly be compelled, if the youngster isn't waiting, and it doesnt sound like he's. My first daughter wasnt waiting to potty prepare till 3yrs, 11months, yet while she did, she did it in 2 days. sounds like he could desire to nevertheless be donning a nappy (diaper) in one day. And confident, little bodies could properly be very afraid of falling into the lavatory. a sparkling, colourful potty chair could make issues greater alluring for him, nevertheless. you may desire to attempt utilising candy, basically a pair of pez, or something small on a useful potty use. Dont shame him, he remains little, and that's ok. attractiveness is fundamental. convey a splash sadness, perhaps basically an "oopsie, your nappy is moist. No candy this time. You get some candy in case you utilize the potty, you be responsive to." That attitude has worked for me. Oh, and pooping is thoroughly distinctive, btw. They see it as 2 somewhat some issues. My first could carry it in, constipate herself till she replaced into in tears, then squat interior the direction of the floor crying to poop. I picked her up in that place, and placed her on her potty chair, she finished her poop, and that replaced into it. basically had to try this as quickly as. She learnt it wasnt so undesirable, and greater advantageous than pooping on the floor. XD No issues for the reason that. together with her, pull united stateshave been greater of an issue than a help. "vast lady underclothes" have been a great incentive for her.

Answer 6

my son didn't potty train until he was 3 years, 7 months. you can't make them, thats for sure. just encourage him and he'll get tired of walking around in a wet diaper after a while.

Answer 7

Don't sweat it, seriously. I wanted to get my now 3.5 year old potty trained before her sister was born last April and I leanred (too late) one thing that would have saved me a lot of frustration. They will go when they are ready. Seriously, she decided in September that the time was right and BOOM, done. Your son will let you know.

Answer 8

if he wants to wear diapers then let him he might get bored of it or he might not either way its not hurting anyone