i cant findout if he loves me or not, i wish we get married but i never say it to him and never tel him i love him, i just tried to show it with my behavior and being kind to him and paying attention.
but its about one year and i'm tired of being like this... :(
2007-02-28 06:30:29 · 8 answers · asked by raha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well,im 24 and he's 27.unfortunately in our country its not usual for a girl to tell her feelings to a boy!!! and i know if he knows a bout my feeling he will escape from me as soon as possible!(lol)
2007-02-28 06:45:31 · update #1
In the grand scheme of things, how long is a year? Not long. It's long enough to know someone, yes. It is not long enough to promise to spend the rest of your life with them.
2007-02-28 06:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, but I am the guy in this same position. Every time I showed this girl that I cared, she never responded, so I continued being a very close friend. Recently, I sent her an ecard for Valentine's Day to bring it to the forefront. I was tired of playing flirting games for a whole year almost myself. I also see myself possibly marrying this girl because I have known her since we were teens!
She gives me no indications when I flirt, but she does say thank you for flirty emails and likes for me to email. I hate the games!! I say you should make a VERY obvious move because all the time I am pushing it closer and closer to a relationship. If you are tired of it, do not speak of it. It will only worsen the confusion. Instead, force them to choose slowly. Hold his hand or something inadvertently. Hang all over him and see if he likes it. NEVER talk about it, but do something to show he must choose. If he does not choose, move on even though that is hard. I love this girl, but I keep telling her "I like you", "I care about you", "I think of you a lot!", and she does not get it. Force him to get it. Knock him over the head with the idea and work closer and closer to a relationship until he must choose you or lose you. This is the best way to go, and so far it is working!
Obviously he is not going to take the bull by the horns, so why shouldn't you??
2007-02-28 06:39:04 · answer #2 · answered by +TheEndIsInSight+ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it depends on your age since i don't know much about this situation. I mean if you're only 21 -25, then i would wait and see where it's going first because in young relationships, sometimes we need a chance to get to know our wants and needs. where, on the other hand, if it is an older relationship, and you feel it is time to kick it up a notch, then just lay it out on the table. let him know, where you would like to be in a few years, and ask him where he would like to be, this way maybe you can get an advantage on the situation and where you see it going. If all looks good, then ,maybe you can let him know how you feel about him, but not in a mooshy way, guys hate that. More on a serious level, that you are really understanding where he is coming from and that maybe you can help each other get there faster. that's what i would do. hope that helped a little.
2007-02-28 06:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by Lovely 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honni, u only knew him a year that is not a lot of time for u to wanna spend the rest of ur life with him,and ti u do live him then let him know how u feel,and if he feel the same way then thats good.... but it's still to soon for u to marie him maybe in 3 years i f u 2 are still together....the best of luck =)
2007-02-28 06:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by bye bye!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so, you want to know if he loves you but you've never told him yourself. hmm...what if he's doing exactly the same thing and just been waiting for you and your both sitting there, staring each other down because you both refuse to go first.
wow, how much joy are you missing out on in your life because you're holding back how you feel about someone just because they *might* not feel the same way back. I don't think I could live in such a constant state of fear...
:shrug:
2007-02-28 06:37:25 · answer #5 · answered by arjo_reich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One year is still kinda short to be getting married. And if you really love him then being married should not bother you that much. Are you sure you love him or love the idea of being married??
2007-02-28 06:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by starbrite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the "strange" one?...You say you wish you get married, but you don't even tell him you like him?That's the weird thing...tell him how you fell...if he decides to give you chance,OK...otherwise, you must move on.Either way, you need to know what he wants.You can't wait forever....
2007-02-28 06:36:39 · answer #7 · answered by Cory 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your never gonna know his feelings about you until u ask him, you waited long enough just ask him what his intentions are!
2007-02-28 06:34:08 · answer #8 · answered by stewiegrif27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋