I am paying for my sisters dress (she is my maid of honor). I told my best friend who is my bridesmaid that I would like to be able to pay for her dress too, but that since it was so far away and I hadn't really got into the planning yet I don't know for sure if I will be able to. I told her this about a month ago or so. The wedding isn't until May of 08. Come to find out, she will need to buy her own b/c I am still short the money for a photographer. Is it wrong to ask her if she would feel comfortable paying for her own dress. And like I said this is my best friend so it's not like "rude" means the same thing as it would if it were just an aquaintance...meaning she would be understanding. I just don't know what to do or what to say. I had made it a point to mention that I didn't know if I would have the money to do this, though.
2007-02-28 06:28:28 · 10 answers · asked by goaliegirl87 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i know they are supposed to pay for their own but we're in college so i know it isn't the best timing ever
2007-02-28 06:34:12 · update #1
Your wedding isn't until May 08 and you're telling me that in the next year you can't come up with an extra $200 to pay for her dress? Come on! All you have to do is save $20 a month for the next 10 months. You won't even order (and pay for) the dress until 8-12 weeks before the wedding.
It is rude to ask her to pay for it after you offered to.
2007-02-28 19:35:33 · answer #1 · answered by Just Jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As it is your best friend she should be understanding. The wedding isn't until May of '08 so it's not like she has to come up with the money in 2 weeks. Weddings are a huge expense and she should understand you asking for a little help.
2007-02-28 14:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by galixcysmagic 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've always heard where the B/M's pay for their own dresses. I know mine did.
Why are you paying for your sister's dress? What about splitting the cost with each of them? You may end up spending the same amount as if you were paying for your sister's but then each of them isn't out $150 for a one-time dress.
2007-02-28 14:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by ziggyzp77 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she is truely your best friend you should be able to talk openly and candid with her about your wedding expenses. And she would accept the fact that she'll have to pay for own wedding attire. Personally, i think unless you are very wealthy, the bride and groom shouldn't be footing the bill for their attendants in their wedding.
2007-02-28 14:46:33 · answer #4 · answered by Laughing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
looks like you are plaing to get marry and can't afford any expenses Is not a good way to start you marry life bad sign...And I really I don't how that works about paying for dresses I am not an expert but I do recommend it that you do your wedding at less expensive that you can because if you are the one that have to provide for her dress I say yes it will be not nice for you to ask her to buy her own dress I guess if you are the one that should have to do that...Unless it was an agreement for her to buy it when you ask her to be your maid of honor... Good luck!!!
2007-02-28 14:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be honest and let her know bridesmaid dresses are not in your wedding budget, she will understand. I always thought the b/m paid for their own dresses anyway, I always have and I have been in like 10 weddings
2007-02-28 14:32:26 · answer #6 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since she is your bestfriend, just tell her how it is. Money too tight to manage paying for her dress. She will understand and should be happy to pay for her own dress.
2007-02-28 14:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you just don't have the money to pay for it. If she is really a best friend, she should understand that.
You're not obligated to pay for attendant's dresses, anyway.
2007-02-28 14:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by kiwi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in college too, but as a bride and brides maid... I PAID FOR MY OWN. I thought unless it was a platinum wedding all the brides maid paid for their own.
2007-02-28 23:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, just tell her now so if she needs to save up she can. She shouldn't be offended. She probably already planned that this was a serious possibility. Good luck.
2007-02-28 14:33:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋