We haven't celebrated his birthday since the attacks of 9-11, but he's turning 5 this year and he is getting old enough to know that he should be having a party. Is it too soon?
BTW, happy birthday Catfish! We got you something, but she ran off.
2007-02-28 06:28:05 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Of course you should celebrate his birthday!! I dont know why you havent to this point. If the exact date that bothers you, you could always do it the weekend before or after his Bday. Thats what most people do anyway
2007-02-28 06:35:48 · answer #1 · answered by Oops! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the thing you left out of your question is that your son's birthday is on September 11th and I assume you have been putting off celebrating it because of the date.
If this is the case I would just say that you probably should have been celebrating it all along. One of the joys of life is the celebration of milestones in one's life. You should never decline to celebrate a joyous milestone because of an historical event.
You're in a unique situation where you can contribute to the balance of the 9-11 equation. For all the death that happened on that day you brought the miracle of new life into the world which should be a reminder as to what life is all about, which is that it's not about death it's about all the things that make life worth living and the birth of a Son is definitely something to celebrate.
Also, since I don't remember anything before my 5th birthday (I actually do have some memories from my fifth birthday though) I don't think your Son would have remembered his early birthdays anyhow. But he's getting to the age where these types of celebrations will be important for balanced social development.
So, if I were you, I'd start making plans for a big birthday party with all his friends. :-)
2007-02-28 14:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by JoeBlow 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I assume you're claiming your son's birthday is 9-11. Of course if he's turning 5 this year he would have been born in 2002, a year after 9-11. I'm not sure what your point is but if you have a son at all, celebrate his birthday.
2007-02-28 14:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by SA Writer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand the reasoning behind your not celebrating your son's birthday! It is not his fault 9-11 happened. It was a tragic day that we will all remember and it is always in our thoughts. That day is in the past and we are all moving on with life. Life is for living and living it to the best of our abilities. The future is what we have to look forward to each day. The day your son was born is a day to be celebrated with happiness and joy. It is his special day that he came into this world to become an amazing individual. He is a blessing that you were so very lucky to have in your life. Let him know that he is special to you and to everyone by celebrating the day of his birth. I would also suggest that you try and make it extra special to make up for all of the past years of celebrating his day that he missed out on. I wish you luck with whatever you decide because you are his parent and I suppose the choice is up to you but he is going to start wondering why all his friends get birthday party's and he does not. Happy Birthday to your son.
2007-02-28 15:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by jynnhrt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U cant take a child's birthday away just because of the 9/11 attacks! Are you insane? It wasnt the poor boys fault! Yes i know it was sad but 5 years without a birthday is long enough. I feel really sorry for your son for having such a heartless mother. I cant believe this...not even a few friends over?
2007-02-28 15:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U cant take a child's birthday away just because of the 9/11 attacks! Are you insane? It wasnt the poor boys fault! Yes i know it was sad but 5 years without a birthday is long enough.
2007-02-28 14:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is not fair for him to not have a birthday party, and as you said he will notice if he doesn't get one. I don't know if you lost someone personally in the attacks, I can understand that it would make it harder for you to celebrate on that day. If you need to, have the party on the weekend before/after 9/11 so it doesn't fall on the exact day. But for your son's sake you should definitely celebrate!
2007-02-28 14:34:00 · answer #7 · answered by IDon'tWantToLiveOnTheMoon 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am concerned that due to your profound, prolonged response to the attacks on America 5 1/2 years ago, your son is being deprived of a normal childhood, full of the usual celebrations most enjoy. Are you going to keep him out of school, too? Not let him eat each time 9/11 rolls around again each year? Not allow him to date, since there are nearly 5,000 people who will never be able to date again, nor see their families? Maybe you should shelter him from any religious training, lest he become a Muslim terrorist?
Where does it all end? Your son does not need help, but will, if you don't get some!
2007-02-28 14:43:47 · answer #8 · answered by Howie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure I understand why you're not celebrating it. Was his birthday on 9/11? Did you lose someone in the attack?
It's time to move on. Let your child have a party. Make it a huge blast. Let yourself have fun. You're not disrespecting anyone by celebrating the birth of your child.
2007-02-28 14:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok...This is kind of odd.You should always celebrate his birthday,no matter what.9-11 was a horrible thing and you should keep the ones who lost there life in your heart on that day,but by all means buy the boy a cake and light those candles....BTY,he could already be missing out,I can remember my 2nd birthday!
2007-02-28 14:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by jill@doodle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK there must be more to this.....why did the 9/11 attacks have anything to do with you not celebrating your child's bday? That doesn't make any sense to me, why not celebrate it? He's a child! Out of curiosity..... do you celebrate your birthday??
2007-02-28 14:41:11 · answer #11 · answered by Nicole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋