My boyfriend/best friend cheated on me and left me for someone else. He lied about it when I asked him to tell me the truth. I found out about it anyway though. He was the last person in the world I would have expected this from. At first I was really sad about it, but now that it's sunk in I'm just so angry and I don't know how to get past it. I haven't spoke with him since we've broken up and I don't think I want to. Anyone been through the same thing and can offer some advice? All I can think about is how angry I am and how much I want to just punch him and make him hurt. I'm not a violent person though, never have been. I know i need to let go and move on but I don't know how.
2007-02-28 06:21:23 · 9 answers · asked by MaryJane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Been there.
From my own experience the best thing to do is to get away and stay away.
There is nothing that can be gained by trying to hurt this person. The best thing to do is move on with the knowledge that you are too good for this person.
It's hard, I know, but I'm pullin for ya.
2007-02-28 06:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by spamovision 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. I quickly come to the realization that you can have your man on videotape and they still will say it wasn't them. I know it hurts and I know you're angry but you have to remember that what he did is not a reflection on you. I know you have heard he didn't deserve you anyway and don't want to hear it right now but that's just the way it is. He doesn't deserve you. My advise to you would be to pray about it. And not a halfway prayer either. The hurt and anger that you are feeling channel that energy into praying that the Lord see you through it. I bet you feel better for it. O and by the way I really hope your not an atheist.
2007-02-28 06:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by tlspates1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through a very similar situation. I dated the same guy for about 5 years, he was my best friend too! He cheated on me, I found out, and we broke up. I can't describe exactly what it was that got me passed everything. Because, like you, I wasn't even hurt, I was PISSED! I think the big thing was that I tried my hardest not to think about it or talk about it, and just start living life (a.k.a. get distractions). I also started dating new guys (which really helps forget about the old - even if it's not long term dating) and doing things that I could never do when I was with him. Overall, my advice is to CELEBRATE your break up, not mourn it or dwell on his cheating ways. You should try to be happy and proud of yourself because you got out before he could hurt you even more (which he probably would). You obviously are better off if he couldn't be faithful. This all worked for me, I hope it helps you, too!
2007-02-28 06:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jacque 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a Christian, you could pray about this, and ask God to take the anger from you.
One way of releasing anger is to buy a big notebook full of paper. Write down your feelings, explain yourself, whatever. Write and write and write. And then burn all the paper. At least then you would get the anger expressed.
2007-02-28 06:27:56 · answer #4 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and remember that there are many people that have gone through this too, you are not alone. but only you can make the decision to let him take up your thoughts. this is life and life happens, and you need to deal with it, accept it and move on. every minute spent angry is 60 seconds of wasted happiness.
2007-02-28 06:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you wanna kick his as*s, first don't care about him and never try to speak again to him, then find another person who would care and appreciate you. believe me no matter what you think about your ex, you must know that he is there waiting to see your reaction to make him feel more good about himself, don't give him the chance to do his victory dance, keep your anger and even if you see him in your way try to pretend that you are better without him. i tried that once..... it worked.good luck
2007-02-28 06:39:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to channel your anger for starters and not take it out on anyone who doesn't deserve it. Also, although I know it sucks (it happend to me w my ex gf), just take comfort in knowing that you will be better off without him.
2007-02-28 06:26:57 · answer #7 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all the advice listed is good....
I'd say go hook up with someone, maybe a couple of people.
Get down and dirty and get your freak on.
that'll help.
2007-02-28 06:43:12 · answer #8 · answered by jairman2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i know i never would of thought my boyfriend would of cheated on me but it happend...yes anger will go away
2007-02-28 06:28:25 · answer #9 · answered by ♫♥♪♬♥♪Try Me♫♥♪♫♥♪♬ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋