I have been dating this guy for 8 months and I knew five months in that I loved him and at the time he did not feel the same way. Now it has been two more months and he still is not sure if he loves me or not. How long do I stay if he does not love me and is there a time when you walk away if love is not in a relationship.
2007-02-28 06:19:47 · 24 answers · asked by jk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is such a hard question. You love him and it will be so hard to walk away. Eight months really isn't that long. He doesn't feel the same but does he have strong feelings for you? If his feelings have gotten stronger and you are happy together then I would give it a couple more months. If he is unsure of his feeling altogether then I would walk away now.
2007-02-28 06:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first guy I loved was pretty much the same way. I had it so bad for him I couldn't walk away. It took me a year and a half to see that no matter how much I loved him and how hard I tried I couldn't make him love me back. The longer you stay the more hurt you will feel. Get out as soon as possible. I am telling you that it is going to hurt so badly and you're going to want him back, but the pain will fade with time. I'm sorry this happened to you. I hope it turns out better in the end.....
2007-02-28 06:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by Socially Awkward Penguin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you love this guy? Are you in love with him is the next question you should be asking yourself?
Is he treating you right? Is he are has he ever cheated on you?
Dose he still call you and ask you out on dates? Do you enjoying being with him?
If you answered yes to all but the cheating what dose love have to do with it? Enjoy, you have a boyfriend who like being with you and spending time with you.
Love means difference thing to every one and just maybe he dose love you but doesn’t know how is to feel when in love with someone. I say if you have a good thing going ride it out until the ride comes to a stop and don't worry about love if he coming back and not cheating your all he needs that say to me he's loves you.
Slow your roll, give him time, 8 month isn't that long all now days.
Keep your chin up and keep smiling :-0)
2007-02-28 06:33:44 · answer #3 · answered by choiceav 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he show his love in other ways? Take you out to a nice romantic dinner every now and then? Do the dishes every now n then? Tuck you in? Backrubs? and listen? Etc. You still have some time left, wait a little longer and see the small signs if there are any, then decide
2007-02-28 06:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by www.japanvideogames.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time you stay is up to you. But how long can you seriously wait until you become resentful? That's the point at which you should leave.
Don't test him by leaving like another poster mentioned, that does not prove someone loves you, just proves he needs a booty call.
2007-02-28 06:24:38 · answer #5 · answered by Big D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would walk away now, that gives you both time to see how you feel and he may not realize how much he appreciates you until you have gone. If he does nothing then you haven't lost anything, just got rid of a waste of time. Life is too short.
2007-02-28 06:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by North London Lady! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that he is unsure? Do you keep asking him? Stop asking him, geez. If you like being with him, keep being with him, and ease up a little on the serious talks. If he has been burned before, then he is going to be hesitant. The fact that he hasn't said it yet says something either about him or about your relationship. You need to decide which. If it's the latter, then move on.
2007-02-28 06:24:34 · answer #7 · answered by Milana P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're older than 18, the guy should know he loves you after 6 months, if not, then move on.
2007-02-28 06:23:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now might be that time. If he's not sure after eight months, don't wait. The longer it takes the more it will hurt. Be strong.
2007-02-28 06:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stay as long as you are willing to settle for a one sided relationship. Some people do it for their entire lives.
The fact that you're asking this questions - leads me to believe that you know in your heart that it's time to move on.
Go!
2007-02-28 06:23:13 · answer #10 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋