I never liked her dog, and she knows it, but I do feel bad for her. Would a call from me this fresh (the day after) be helpful or hurtful? We aren't terribly close. Should I follow her lead of the emailed announcement to email some comforting words and let her know I'll call her in a few days or she can call me when she's ready? Or what?? Anyone have any experience with this?
2007-02-28 06:16:13 · 18 answers · asked by Kim S 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
My dog is like one of the family. By your mother emailing out the news of it's death, she is sharing with everyone something she feels is important and obviously painful.
Since she feels it is important, you should support her, even if you don't care for the dog, you care for your mom - or you wouldn't be wondering how to deal with this.
Don't email her- make it more personal, give her call, tell her first thing you got her email and you are sorry to hear about what happened. She might want to cry so be ready for that. Tell her you know her pet was important to her and that makes it important to you.
And if your anywhere near her, go give her a hug.
2007-02-28 07:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by Sadi 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Call your mom. Even though you didn't care for the dog, loosing a pet is a sad event. You don't need to spend a lot of time on the phone, just call and say "Hey, Mom, I got the news about Spot. I am very sorry." She may go on to tell you how it happened. Be sure to make some sympathetic comments, such as "How are you doing?"
It may be too early to suggest another pet. But, if she brings it up, a good reply may be "When you're ready, Mom, go ahead. It's up to you to know when you are ready for a new pet."
2007-02-28 06:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the loss your Mom feels. Since you have not been close, a comforting e-mail would be a good start with a promise to call in a few days. This might even help bring you both closer. At least it will give her a feeling that she hasn't lost everything.
2007-02-28 06:29:34 · answer #3 · answered by dbrazelt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you, I am not close to my Mom. Go for the email and tell her to let you know when she is ready for a phone call.
2007-02-28 06:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would call. Even if you're not close, it's important to call her once in a while and she might appreciate the distraction from what she's going through. If you really can't bear to talk to her about it right now, at least send flowers or a card.
2007-02-28 06:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by krobin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call her even though you aren't that close with her she would appreciate that and maybe this will be a step toward you two becoming closer. it's worth the try and if she doesnt receive your call well than aleast you know you made the effort of trying and that's all you can do. Good Luck
2007-02-28 08:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by Luv2Brie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure you should...its your mom. THe fact that she emailed everyone aobut it means that she wants people to know. Just call your mom and talk about normal stuff. Let her know how your doing and then mention that you read the email and your sorry for her loss.
Hope i helped
2007-02-28 06:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
find on of those online card places and send her a condolence card if you think a phone call might be a bad idea. at least she will know you are thinking of her. but definitely make contact in some way.
2007-02-28 07:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call your Mom. I just lost my dog last week, it's a painful time and i'm sure she appreciate the gesture.
2007-02-28 06:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by shorty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find an e-card that expresses sympathy for the loss of a pet and send it to her
always take the high road, dear
2007-02-28 06:20:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋