What could be te reason for this?
2007-02-28 06:08:10 · 13 answers · asked by possessed Regan 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm almost 28, my last relationship ended more than a year ago. A lot of times i think about staying single for the rest of my life but that doesn't feel good either. I feel as if i'm really scared of men.
2007-02-28 06:17:47 · update #1
Tweetybird, i don't wanna play games either. If i only can get a guy by playing games, i'm not interested in him.
2007-02-28 06:20:19 · update #2
You are afraid to lose control of your life. You think once you are in a relationship you will be trapped...
2007-02-28 06:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by Ariana 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means you are not ready and that is ok, don't force yourself to be a couple if you are not there yet. I was single for about 6 years, dated here and there but I loved being single and living alone, which I did for 7 years. There is nothing wrong with that and I think it did me some good. I got to know and love myself, which is key, because you have to be comfortable with you before you can give yourself to anyone else. I am now with the man of my dreams for over a year and living together for almost 7 months now. When it's the one, you know, it won't make you feel sick but it will tickle you pink! Live it up while you can.
2007-03-07 20:54:59 · answer #2 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many relationships did u have ?
And were any of them really heart breaking ?
That could be why u get nervous and feel sick like because your afraid to get hurt again , U have to understand there are guys who are jerks and some that arent and the ones who arent are hard to come by but give it some time , and learn to trust your self again and just be happy and if u come to another fork in the road just remember what u learned from your past relatiopnships as to how to make the new ones work out :)
2007-02-28 14:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by Constance C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you experienced some kind of trauma and are having a mild panic/anxiety attack and that's pretty normal for women. My advice to you is get involved in a singles workshop or singles events (church is a great place to start or community center) where you can develop relationships with other single men without the pressure of finding a romantic partner. Perhaps just getting comfortable to hanging out with guys. Hope this helps.
2007-02-28 14:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by divinity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its something repressed from your childhood. Are your parents divorced? Did your Father leave your Mom when you were really young? Other then something like that relax and enjoy someones company. You will still have a degree of control even after you meet a new "friend". Its not the end of the world till much much later LOL
2007-02-28 14:12:18 · answer #5 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to develop a friendship with someone that I found interesting and let things progress from there, no commitments, no strings, just friendship. You might gradually learn to change the way you feel about relationships, there are some good in them.
2007-03-08 13:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same thing...I would love to have a relationship, but it kinda scares me at the same time. perhaps it's the thought of falling in love and leaving yourself open for heartache. I just get tired of having to tell a boyfriend that i'm busy when he wants to go out, even if i'm not, just to keep him interested. i've never done that, but I Just don't want to put up with all the games .because, to me, if the guy is TRUELY into you he would want to spend as much time with you, as you do with him you know?? sorry for getting off the subject, but perhaps it's just the thought of really getting serious with someone, and putting yourself out there that makes you feel that way.
2007-02-28 14:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by tweetybird37406 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You seem to have a subconscious desire to remain single. The thought of feeling something more than friendship or lust for someone wigs you out. But there's nothing wrong with that. It's better to be single, anyway.
2007-02-28 15:49:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just havent found the right one yet...and you may get that feeling when someone brings it up cauz of either your past relationships or you just realize there are a lot of jerks out there, all of this will go away when you meet the right one.
2007-02-28 16:02:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to know having relationship is nice, one gets so much out of it because there is someone to care for us and we care for the one we are with ? Is it not wonderful ?
2007-03-07 22:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by Goldman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋