I have been with my boyfriend for 11 months and we talk about getting married alot. I am totally ready for him to pop the marriage question? How much longer am I going to have to wait? He seems like he is ready, what are some signs that may give me some hints when he is going to ask me to marry him?
2007-02-28 06:07:20 · 9 answers · asked by melmiko 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been waiting 4 years. When the both of you are ready financially, emotionally, and ready to be totally invested in each other... it will happen. I'm almost to that point too and wondering why he does not ask, but finishing school and getting a new job is in the works, so who knows. He just needs to feel ready in every part of his life. You just need to decide if he is the one and you are willing to wait for the moment when he does drop to one knee. Good luck. I'm with you.... be patient.
2007-02-28 06:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by Laura M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Couldn't tell you. Each guy is different. All I can say is that no guy is going to pop the question if he feels pressured to do so. This is a big step for a guy. Usually it is a much bigger step for a guy than it is for us women because when we are kids, we daydream about getting married, but guys on the other hand, don't think like that. To them, being married is the end of all freedom to date someone else. Even if a guy is madly in love with a woman, being 100% committed is a huge step. He may be afraid of failure, especially if he comes from a home where his parents are divorced, or if he has been hurt/divorced before. He could be afraid of living with another person and having to compromise the way people do in marriage. He could be afraid that marriage will cause him to lose his personal freedoms and he will more accountable to another person when maybe he wants to do what he wants to without having to answer to another person. There are various reasons why a guy will hesitate to propose. It could also be that he is waiting until he has a good job, or can buy you a huge rock of an engagement ring, or until he can plan a special proposal. Then again, he may want to do it all simple but just isn't ready yet.
If he loves you and you both discuss marriage, then try to relax. I know how it feels. It was the same for me, only my fiance waited until we were dating 5 months before he proposed. Some will say that is soon, but we spent so much time together and have such a deep connection, so it felt like years to me waiting for him to propose. Still, he did tell me that he realized I was the one for him and the fact that I didn't pressure him into proposing to me helped him decide that he was ready. If you are together 1-1/2 years and he hasn't proposed, then I would have a discussion about what you both want out of your relationship - especially since you have been talking about marriage but nothing is being done about it. Try to hang in there. Give him a little more time if you can.
2007-02-28 06:18:32 · answer #2 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi, 11 months is not that long when you are talking about a lifetime commitment! Slowdown, enjoy the relationship, enjoy being in love! Try not to pressure him or rush him, you have lots of time. Who talks about marriage, anyway, you or him? Who usually brings it up?
Think about this, and if it is usually you, back off a bit, tell him you love him, and drop the marriage talk. If he loves you and wants to marry you, he'll ask when he's ready. The only thing rushing him will do is chase him away. If you are both rushing, then opt for a long engagement. This is supposed to be a lifetime commitment.
Good luck
2007-02-28 06:19:58 · answer #3 · answered by Freebird 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
11 months isn't that long. It takes males longer to be ready than females. Are yall in a stable relationship? Do yall both make enough money to support yallself. If you think yall are without a doubt ready, then ask him have you been thinking about getting married because I can't stop thinking about spending the rest of my life with you. and see what he says to that.
2007-02-28 06:13:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time honey! 11 months ain't that long. As long as you love each other, what's the rush? You'll get married someday and it'll be great. Patience is a virtue, ya know! :)
2007-02-28 06:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica La La Leigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't rush into this. Marriage is a HARD commitment if you're not ready. 11 months does not make you ready.
2007-02-28 06:15:37 · answer #6 · answered by neenee_05 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
11 months is too soon.
2007-02-28 06:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it will come the least you expect it.. no one can etll except your boyfriend. dont ruin the surprise.. just enjoy what you have now, if its for you, then itll come.. orytie?
2007-02-28 06:14:15 · answer #8 · answered by `red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wonder the divorce rate is high.
2007-02-28 06:16:07 · answer #9 · answered by sirtitan45 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋