My 4 year old daughter has a bad attitude. She will yell at you and she gets really angry. she never hits anyone, she just doesn't listen. she will do the exact opposite that you tell her. and if you tell her no she will go to another person and ask for the same thing and so on, until someone says yes. how can i get her to actually listen to me?
2007-02-28 06:02:51 · 14 answers · asked by michelled24 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
they get the bad attitude because when they start to get one you just give in and then they notice that then they can just get mad and they know that they will get what they want stand firm on what you believe and they will follow but it wont happen over night good luck
2007-02-28 06:11:53 · answer #1 · answered by littletimmy007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop her now before it gets worse!.. Consistency, don't let her get away with anything that isn't appropriate. If she talks to you in that tone again, turn to her and tell her that you will not listen to her if shes going to speak like that, and dont ever give in. same with her anger. ground her from everything, blankie, tv, toys, pets, etc. At her age 1 whole day at a time. Be sure to supervise, and give her a 15 min. time out if she disobeys at any time during her grounding. Let everybody else know what you have just told her, or how she is being punished. DO NOT GIVE IN! Always have the upper hand. My daughter still does as shes told, now 14. I sometimes had to blow her hair back to get things through to her, that scared her. Allow for her to express herself to you too. Even if she feels bad for something she does wrong, its okay to comfort her but she still needs the consequences to be followed thru on. Don't always answer NO right away when she wants something, tell her you will think about it. Make sure you do, if it is something that isn't of great interest to you, like playing with playdough cuz of the mess it makes, but it would mean a lot to her, then say yes you may play with it but only at the table on the newspaper, if you disobey me once, then I will take it away.(and make sure you do). If you ask her to pick up her toys before bedtime and she throws a fit, then say fine but if I have to pick them up, they will go in the garbage...and do it. Be stern and consistent. You will develop a better level of respect for one another. Hope this helps, good luck!
2007-02-28 06:56:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a kindergarten teacher for several years I have had to deal with this many times. First, you need to be consistent in your reactions and discipline. What worked the best in my room? You have to talk to them and discover a plan together. Even though she is four she knows what is right and wrong and can give many suggestions to help the situaion. Start a behavior chart and make it togehter.. Make it like a calendar for everyday of the week. Depending on the case and child.. limit the tantrums.ex.. if she screams 5x a day.. start slow if she brings it down to 2 a day or 1 then she gets a sticker..then each week make it less and less.. Reward if she gets so many stickers in a week she gets a prize.. or something to do.. You need rules and it is important to come up with the plan together.. Good Luck!
2007-02-28 06:15:36 · answer #3 · answered by TROY L RICKARD S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to sit her down, and tell her all the rules of the house. including the reprocussions if she decides to break those rules. then when she decides to not listen, you give her one more chance, and if she does it again, then you punish her exactly how you told her you were going to. the problem with parents and discipline these days (in my opinion), is that parents continually threat their children with punishments that the children know they wont carry out. so instead of saying "if you do that one more time im going to ground you for a month!" say something like "if you do that one more time then tv privleges are going to be taken away for today." this is because that punishment is more reasonable, and shes more likely to believe you would do that over a months grounding. so basically what im saying, is lay down the ground rules, and FOLLOW THEM. dont let her get away with doing things that she knows is wrong!! good luck!
2007-02-28 06:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by orangequeen9208 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you get a good answer, let me know. I have a 3 1/2 year old daughter with the SAME problem !!
I think it's a girl thing !!
2007-02-28 06:20:52 · answer #5 · answered by bye bye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you watched Super Nanny? Seriously, my mother use to say what's cute at 2, will it still be cute at 13 or 15? Nip it in the butt now. You can't get angry with her but if she doesn't have an audience then what's the point? You better get a hold of it though or you'll be sorry later.
2007-02-28 06:13:08 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you find the "magic cure," let me know. I'm sure my 3yo daughter is related to your 4yo. ^.~ lol
I've started a positive reinforcement activity for both of my daughters (the other is 1yo). I do it more for my 3yo, but seeing her sister earn things makes her want to do well too, and seeing her getting things that her sister doesn't makes her want to teach.
What I did was we sat down together and made a small posterboard (about 11x15) with her name on it and we decorated it. Whenever she does something wonderfully, she earns a sticker, gets to pick it out herself and put it on her board. She also gets to put her sister's on for her after we let her randomly "pick" one out.
Some of the activities include: cleaning up all her toys, doing her full alphabet, going to the potty, counting to 20, eating all of a meal *real problem point*.
Good luck! This is a rough age I think.
2007-02-28 06:15:34 · answer #7 · answered by Mommy of 2 Girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow well first of all children know when they are being tested and get what they want.. they're not that stupid.
I say lay down the rules straight and take away privilages. Never hit her or anything. But do give her time outs where you keep her in her room until she cools down.
2007-02-28 06:14:32 · answer #8 · answered by ninacoqueta0817 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time out sit there and make her stay make sure she knows you are serious to then when you let her out get down on your knees and ask her if she knows why she was put in the corner if not explain she will start listening if you stick with it
2007-02-28 06:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is my trick I take away all the toys everything and they have to earn them back, I still have a cloest in my bedroom that is still half filled with toys. Also time out , time out, time out just keep putting them in.
2007-02-28 06:10:02 · answer #10 · answered by Jody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋