is this totally awful??

Question

that i don't want children? i've seen what it does to relationships and makes mothers look sooo old and tired. the parents seem to revolve their entire lives around their children, they have no time for eachother! is it terrible that i don't want children?

Answer 1

It is not awful to not want children, it is your personal choice. But don't go with this because they cause stress and make mothers look old. Its all how you take it in. Being a mother is the best thing that could have ever happened to me. And sure my life revolves around them but there are times I get to have my own life and get out once in a while.

Answer 2

Not wanting children is not a bad thing. I don't agree with it ruining relationships. Adults ruin relationships not children. They are alot of work and you do have to revolve your life around them but it is a good thing. Some people wait longer and start their careers first. Some people dont want kids due to the way it would change their careers or lifestyles! Cant just get up and go anymore! It goes both ways but children are the most wonderful creations on earth! The love a mother has for her children is a love like no other you can ever experiance unless you decide to have children! Dont feel bad though...you are not alone...

Answer 3

Absolutely not. Not everyone wants children. You're not a bad person for not wanting children...just like someone isn't a bad person for wanting children. It's a personal choice and completely up to you! You can have an extremely fulfilling life without ever having a child. It's all up to you and what you decide.

My best friend is the sweetest girl in the world but she absolutely does NOT want to have children. She's still a great person and she doesn't hate babies and kids...she just doesn't want her own. She's engaged to be married in the fall and they have decided that children just aren't right for them. I say GOOD FOR THEM!

It's not awful not wanting children...it's worse having children that you don't want (especially if you think you're "supposed" to have kids)

Answer 4

Its not terrible no, but I think you need to take a better look at your reasoning. My children are my life, yes! But, that doesn't mean that my husband and I neglect eachother in any way,shape or form. Our priorities changed, thats all. We still have the same love for eachother..if not stronger. I do not look old, or tired! I may have lookedtired my firt month or so as a new mom, but who wouldn't. After that, its something you get used to and come to appreciate. In order for you to understand any of the mothers that respond to your question, I think you'd have to be a mother yourself to truly appreciate whatwe are saying! If having children isn't in your plans, thats perfect for you. You have to decide your life's path, and if children aren't to be included, make sure you use protection, thats all! Good Luck

Answer 5

It isn't terrible, it is your choice. I do think you put too much emphasis on looks. I see old people and some are beautiful because of the experiences that have put character lines on their faces. I don't have any children but I would love to be a Mom. I am from a large family and I can tell you that my parents made time for each other, I also remember hearing them laugh at bedtime. The laughter was usually about something one of us did or said.
I truly don't think that they felt shortchanged.

Answer 6

Not if that's your opinion no.
I didn't want kids either at one time, until i met my husband.
And what you described doesn't go for all mothers.
I'm 23, i have a 2y/o and 1y/o and i'm 26 weeks pregnant.
I'm a size 5, i have no stretch marks whatsoever and always ping back to my pre-pregnancy weight of 125lb. I don't look old or tired at all, i look very healthy and good for having 3 kids.
As for me and my husband we have plenty of time for one another. We dance in the kitchen at night, we still hold hands at the park, sex is still great, our marriage is still as solid as it was before kids, even more so!
And yes, our lives revolve around our children, because we love them and want them grow up with so much love, support and nurture but it doesn't take time away from one another.
I think you are dwelling on some of the negatives of motherhood and what you described as i said, isn't true for everyone.
Even though i didn't want kids 5 years ago, i wouldn't change a thing now, i love motherhood and pregnany. But that doesn't always go for women and that's fine, if you don't want kids that's okay doesn't make you mean or anything, but, just don't look at nasty negatives like you described.....

Answer 7

it's not terrible some people are just not capable of being parents. if u are young u might change opinions later on in life i remember when i was in my teens i didn't want to get married or have childrens so now i'm 24 i been married for 2 years and have a beautiful one year old and my life is great!!!!

Answer 8

I don't think it is terrible. But everyone parents their children differently. I always told myself I would never lose my own identity after having my son. And I haven't. I actually discovered things about me that I did not know. If you decide that you want to have children, I recommend having babysitters often. And do not forget about the hubby. But if you decide you still do not want children, then it just isn't meant for you. Good luck!

Answer 9

No it's not terrible some women just don't want to have children and others that's what they wanted to be a mother. I never wanted children until I became pregnat now I have 3 and love it.

Answer 10

All I have to say is who is going to take care of you when you are old. Not your friends or husband they will all be as old as you.

I think that for some people children can keep you young. I don't think it is wrong not to want children, but you may change your mind just keep your options open.