I'm 16 years old and in love with my boyfriend.
My mom knows it, and says we should "be careful" because we're in love.
What on earth does that mean?
2007-02-28 05:55:13 · 28 answers · asked by Telltale Muffin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me clear this up, first of all. We actually are in love as much as any couple. We've been together for a good 6 months, and don’t even kiss that often. Our relationship is more than just the physical crap that pulls most high school couples together. Also, neither of us believes in premarital sex. If that’s what my mom meant, I feel insulted.
2007-02-28 06:03:53 · update #1
Whoa, after I said that last bit, everyone stopped answering.
Is there really nothing else she might have meant, other than "don't have sex"?
2007-02-28 06:13:46 · update #2
Dont jump into anything to quickly!!!
2007-02-28 05:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by Art 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She means that the feelings you are having may feel like love and in turn be only infatuation.She wants you to be careful because right now you think he is the one for you forever and therefore might make bad decisions with him that are not so easy to get rid of in the case you were to find he isn't the guy you kept thinking he was.Things like having un protected sex which can lead to diseases and or pregnancy way younger than wanted or with someone you will have a hard time raising a child with.Also things like getting married earlier than you should or with the wrong person at the wrong time in life.
She just wants to be sure you remember to use your common sense above all those feelings you are having.Love even when its at its best is in no way the only thing that should be on your mind.Sometimes you need to try and be your own devils advocate and challenge those feelings with long hard thought.
Good luck!
2007-02-28 14:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...
I'm not going to say you don't know what love is because of your age. There's always the thought of having you end up pregnant. Also, you're only 16 make sure you have fun with your friends, family.
I've loved two people very much, I noticed I would drop a lot of things for them. Go a lot of times out of my way, the person became my world at such a young age. Now Im currently dating someone, and very happy. I've never felt like this for someone, but we're trying to give us time.
2007-02-28 14:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by Azucena V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is asking you to not allow your infatuation to override your better judgment. When you are 'in love' a chemical is released in your brain that causes you to not think normally. It is the same chemical dominantly found in people with madness. Just don't let who you are now, your grades, sense of moral self, and relationship suffer.
Be Good!
Have a Beautiful Day! ^_^
EDIT: Don't feel insulted. I felt that way when my mother asked me if I was pregnant in the middle of the night just because I had gained some weight. I was 15, had no physical friends and lived out in the middle of nowhere... and I was homeschooled! It took me a painful while to forgive her. I later learned why parents say what they say and why...
Parents hear stories, just don't know in the deep of deep, and get worried sick over their babies. Just remember that if it is that... prove her wrong and just know that it is fear that is driving her claim. ^_^
The type of love I think you have is called Storage (store-gay). It is a friendship kind of love. It is a good kind because there is a lot of honesty and loyalty.
2007-02-28 14:01:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't trust a 16 year old boy completely. They are usually only after one thing. Saying they love you is the most common way of getting it.
2007-02-28 13:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by martin h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mother wants you to proceed with caution. First of all at 16 you are not really in love. It just my opinion but you may think your in love but there is so much more to love then you realize. Your Mother is trying to help you to avoid getting either pregnant or hurt.
2007-02-28 13:59:05 · answer #6 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are both young. she wants you guys to be happy, but to also make the right decisions together. something that you both will not regret later on in life. you both have a long life ahead of you, and things happen when your this young. your mom is worried about you and she wants you to be happy, im sure, with your bf, but she wants you to "be careful" with what you do what kind of decisions to make. good luck with your relationship and i hope that you and your bf will last a long time!
2007-02-28 14:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice I can give you is this: Go back to your mother and ask her exactly what she meant by "be careful".
Do not rely on complete strangers on yahoo to fill in the blanks for you..after all, your mother knows what's best for you because you are HER daughter.
2007-02-28 14:02:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not feeling true love...you will not understand until you are older. I felt the same way about my gf in high school. Ten years later, I realize how wrong I was!!!
She's just looking out for you!!
2007-02-28 13:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should really ask your Mom so that she can explain.
Most likely she said "be careful" with regards to sexual relations, HIV/AIDS, STDs and pregnancy. But she may also have been referring to being careful with your heart as it's likely to get broken.
2007-02-28 13:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful with sex and not get pregnant. Also to becareful and not to let him break ur heart
2007-02-28 13:57:59 · answer #11 · answered by ...Melissa... 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋