been with my partner for 7 years have a 4 year old daughter, he just moved away we were supposed to join him. he isnt happy where he is because we arent with him, hes in debt up to his eyeballs, i think he may also be depressed, he told me the other night he didnt have any feelings for me anyore!!! said he couldnt wait until december till we went down to live with him hes finding it hard to live with each day, wouldnt tell me that he didnt love me anyore? said he just wants his daughter, so why cant i let go of him and move on? i still love him very much, what should i do? pursue him or leave him alone???
2007-02-28 05:53:57 · 8 answers · asked by ann_jacques 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Depression may be clouding his true feelings for you. An old saying is, --we always hurt the ones we love,--appears to be the case here. Depression CAN do this. I would go and live with him. He has already said he cant wait till you move down. Give it your best shot. You can do no more than that.
2007-02-28 06:01:56 · answer #1 · answered by breedgemh_101 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am confused !! you say he is not happy without you but also says he does not have feelings for you any more, which is it ???
If he was my partner of 7 years and father to my 4 year old I would want to know what was going on before I called it a day.
You still love him, you have 7 years invested in him, his daughter needs him, you need to know what the problem is.
If he is in debt or depressed it can be solved TOGETHER.
Try to see him and talk things out, there may be hope if his troubles are solvable, good luck!!!!
2007-02-28 06:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by Dolly Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it must be hard for you babes but move on don't go down in December look after you and your daughter start a fresh somewhere new make new friends let him know what your going to do and tell him you will sort access out for him to see his daughter lifes too short don't end up playing second fiddle to someone who doesn't love you all the best i really mean it :)
2007-03-01 03:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by clare w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he is in the throes of a serious depression so I wouldn't take yourself out of his life just yet. When you are down in the dumps you can forget who is trying to help you, who your friends are, and you can see the whole world as ganging up on you ... sounds like that's where your boyfriend is. Make serious plans about when and how you are going to live together, what steps you are taking, so that he has a focus and doesn't feel neglected. I don't think he's rejecting you - it's more that he is desperately lonely and unhappy and life is grey and he can't see past that.
Be strong, don't abandon him. Good luck.
2007-02-28 06:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are worth more than this and you need to realise your own self worth. Remember that your behaviour is teaching your daughter would you want her to stay in a destructive relationship? Hard as it is, move on, you will find someone that is able to love you for who you are and not just put up with each other for the sake of your daughter.
2007-02-28 06:06:12 · answer #5 · answered by cathyjast 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he is depressed he will also be confused and I would suggest you go and see him and work out for yourself whether he still loves you or not and that way you will have an indication of what you should do. Best wishes do not give up on him just yet. It is awful being awayfrom your family.
2007-02-28 08:49:04 · answer #6 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because when it is over we tend to think of the happy times,, No one wants to start over or be alone, Human nature,,
You should leave him alone and try to find happiness for yourself, But I would wait on this also , since being in a relationship leaves hidden emotional scars,, take care of your daughter the best you can, love her alot,
2007-02-28 06:04:54 · answer #7 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave him find yourself somebody who will love you and want to spend the rest of there lives with you and your daughter
you deserve better than him anyway
good luck in finding a new man
2007-02-28 06:00:34 · answer #8 · answered by zeuse 666 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋