I'm not allowed to have a boyfriend, like my parents told me I can't. I am 14, people tell me that real love does not exist at 14 but I have not loved anyone more than I love my boyfriend. I have known him for four years and I have liked him that whole time. All i want to do is talk to him and be with him. I don't lust for him. I love him more than I love my parents, I'm serious, I'm not just saying. He's the only person I want to be with. The problem is it is a long distance relationship (which is going pretty good actually) and my parents don't know about it. We have been together for two months. I'm really scared now that I got into a relationship and wasn't supposed to, and when my parents find out, I will not see the light of day for a year, NOT exaggerating. Should I have even got involved with this guy? I really do love him though...Any advice?
2007-02-28 05:49:15 · 16 answers · asked by horsesareforever 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Awww... At least you're sure about your feelings. So what if it is a long-distance relationship? The important thing is you love the guy! In my opinion, if you're really in love with your man, just keep your relationship a secret to your parents so that you can test your man if he really loves you & he will stay loyal to you, until the right time comes that you can introduce him to your parents. This is kinda old & rusty, but let your heart decides whats good for you. Be happy girl! :)
2007-02-28 05:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by myuniquestyle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your parents don't want you to have a boyfriend then don't unless you can deal with the repercussions of your actions. You could simply just be friends with this guy. Love will not go away, it can wait and if it is real love,it will. Believe me when I tell you this, just keep it on a friendly level and get to know him more. Sometimes you think you deeply love someone and then something unexpected happens and your views are altered. But I think as a teen you should respect your parents wishes.
2007-02-28 14:00:03 · answer #2 · answered by Julia H 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, all i can say is that there will be conciquences no matter what so its really up to you. eventually, you parents will find out so it could be wise just to get it over with. I dont know the reasons why ur parents are being so strict, but in reality, they are doing it to protect you. not to hold you back. It may look like that but its really to help you in the long run. So talk to ur parents like an adult, and let them know that u are ready for the adult world and for the responsibility for a real relationship.
2007-02-28 13:56:02 · answer #3 · answered by mech_warrior172003 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well chica, u still do live under ur parents roof rite? I know that what they say does not make very much since, but later you will probably find that they were actually rite. I was kinda the same situation. =)
2007-02-28 13:53:41 · answer #4 · answered by Mushroom_cake 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok so a long distant relationship is not a real relationship sorry babe but they are two different things
a relationship is when you get to spend time with your man and you see him alot and get to really get to know him
a long distance relationship is when you talk to him through the phone and emails thats like talking to a wall you cant see his face you cant get close
sorry babe but im going to have to say this like everyone else
at 14 you really shouldtn love someone and its really not love it sounds like you want to be swept away and have a knight on shinning armor come and take you away
it sounds like you want to live in a dream cus your life is kinda dull and guess what everyones life is dull at 14 and thats how it should be
and maybe if your parents and everyone you talk to says your to young maybe its cus they were all in your same spot and they went through it and it turned out to be something other than love
hopefully for once someone will actually listen to her parents and trust them hun i didnt and i almost got pregent and i am a really good girl and i want to wait till marriage to do that stuff and i almost messed that up cus i thought my parents didnt get my situation but they did and thats why they made rules for me
please listen to them it will all get messed up with you dont babe it will trun out ok i promise
2007-02-28 14:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
are you crazy???? unless your parents are abusing you, no one comes before your parents. you are only 14! who have you loved before him.
Known fours years! Long distance! what!!?? did you meet him online! At 14 you have no idea what is love. you should be scared
2007-02-28 13:58:13 · answer #6 · answered by Plus Size Panther! 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should always listen to your parents, even if you don't agree with them. Obviously, they have a reason for not wanting you to have a boyfriend. You should talk to them about it. Tell them how you feel.
2007-02-28 13:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by Hey you! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 26 and have been with my partner since i was 12, my parents don't like it but i think they realized that it was the real thing for us, maybe if you talk to your parents they will understand.
2007-02-28 13:55:02 · answer #8 · answered by Annemarie E 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are so worried about your parents, just tell your bf that you wanna be really good friends until you guys can be together, and it will be easier to be a couple
2007-02-28 13:52:28 · answer #9 · answered by Gloria B 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ur parents dont know ur everythought so if u love him as much as u say u do then i think u should be with him but if he gives u bs then kick him to the curb cause u dont need him if he does that (i can relate im 14 too)
2007-02-28 13:54:44 · answer #10 · answered by babynene2 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋