Has anyone else lost both parents to death before the age of 20?

Question

Hi, I am wondering if there is anyone else out there under the age of 20 who has lost both thier parents to death? My mom died overnight when i was 11, and i took care of my father with cancer for 5 years, and he passed away almost 2 years ago this august. I am 19 and having a hard time finding anyone on this earth who has had the same experience as i have. Feel free to write even if you are not the person i am looking for. I just hope that someone can understand me and i know you are out there. Thanks, Ami

Answer 1

i am so sorry for your loss ...... i really know how u feel .... i have not been through the exact situation ..... but as for me what is passed has passed .......i forget it and look foreword for a better life by all means necessary .... of course u have the right to be sad and angry .... but do not let ur sadness and anger affect ur life ..... plus history proves that hard and merciless circumstances r behind many succesful people ....... i hope to see u one some day..... best wishes

Answer 2

I lost my father when I was 15 and I remember feeling like I was the only person on earth who had ever gone through that. Then, one by one, people would hear what had happened to me and come forward to tell me about their parents that had passed. My senior year of high school I met and became friends with a girl who had lost both parents by the time she turned 16. Her father died when she was a baby and her mother died when she was 15 (the year before I met her) in a tragic drowning accident. The one thing I noticed about her that I really admired was how open she was to telling her story to anyone who asked. I never heard her complain about her circumstances, she never showed any anger toward the world, she would tell people honestly what happened, accept their condolences, and move forward. I always thought that was very brave of her.
Losing a parent so young is tough. Losing both must seem unbearable. But remember that they would have stayed with you longer if they could have and that they would want you to live your life happily. Honor their memory, tell their stories, let yourself grieve when you need to, and keep living your life.
There are people out there who have been in your situation and I wish you luck in finding someone else who fully understands how you feel. But remember that everyone's story is a little bit different and no one feels the pain of losing someone quite the same way as anyone else.
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Answer 3

My mother died of cancer when I was 6 years old. I have always felt cheated because I never got to know her nor she, me. But my dad had the wisdom to remarry a wonderful woman who has made me feel like her own. My brother also died in a car accident when I was 16 (he was 19). I also miss the friendship I could have had with him. But I feel God doesn't give us more than we can handle and please know that He is looking out for you too. The events in our lives, whether good or bad, is what makes us the people we become. I hope you find the peace and happiness you are seeking. May God bless you and good luck!

Answer 4

let me say first that i am sorry to hear of your loss...i know you must be suffering terribly...it is hard to lose your parents....i lost my mother when i was 19 and i was pregnant with my daughter at the time....i never knew my father so he really doesnt count for anything...i can tell you that when something like that happens especially for a sudden death like your mom its very hard and i know that it took a piece of me with her....you are suffering and you feel alone and i know you are just looking for someone who is going to understand where you are coming from and why you are feeling the way you are feeling....honey there are going to be people telling you that the pain goes away after time and all that but it truelly never does...its easier to live with and to pass your days but there will be days even 10 years later where you will hurt for your parents love...the only thing i guess i can tell you is that there are people out there who have livd through the same things you have and have come out ok...take one day at a time and tyr to stay strong...it is okay to cry....and it is okay to miss them...you will for the rest of your life...just remember one thing....God will never put more on your plate then you can handle and you will be able to come through this okay...and be a strong woman that you can be sure your parents will be proud of...good luck and God bless

Answer 5

I HAVE NOT LOST NEITHER ONE OF MY PARENTS.BUT MY BROTHER DIED IN DECEMBER 2006,AND HIS WIFE WAS KILLED IN 2005.THEY LEFT BEHIND 2 DAUGHTERS 11 AND 5 YEARS OLD.HIS WIFE ALSO HAD 2 OTHER CHILDREN.SO I CAN RELATE TO HOW YOU ARE FEELING.THE YOUNGER CHILDREN WILL NEVER REMEMBER THEM.AT LEAST YOU WERE BLESSED TO HAVE A GREAT DEAL OF TIME WITH YOUR PARENTS,AND MEMORIES.FEEL FREE TO TALK TO ME AT [e-mail]

Answer 6

I'M SORRY FOR YOUR PARENTS DEATH AND EVEN THOUGH MY PARENTS ARE STILL ALIVE I CAN FEEL YOUR PAIN. IF YOU NEED TO JUST TALK TO GET SOMETHINGS OFF YOUR CHEST THEN FEEL FREE TO WRITE ME.