a virgin guy 24 needs a genuine answer pls..?

Question

Hi!
im a virgin male 24, and i could not get a girl for a relationship too.. im too shy for that.. so i decided to go to a prostitute. but my close friend says, it will be addictive. .. is it so? which is the healthy way to start my sexual life... please help me! its an important point in my life...i would be happy to get any kind of help!!! Please!!

Answer 1

Prostitute? No!

You want to take the chance to ruin the rest of your sexual life for 15 minutes??? Or possibly catch a fatal disease? What happens in 5 years when you meet someone you really like? You have to tell her you have herpes?

Better off using your hand...

You need my dating advice.

Here's what I posted for someone else... It's a little long... but it's my best advice.

1) Stop worrying about being single. That is killing your confidence. Enjoy being single. You can go where you want, when you want. Don't have to compromise... Play xbox 'till 2 in the morning. Hang out witht he guys...

2) Ask women to go on dates but your only goal is to make friends. If it goes further, that's great. At least you started as friends. The more women friends you make, the more confident you will be with women.

3) Follow these dating rules.

a. First date is a short one. Lunch. That's it. Movies and a dinner on a first date turn into a never ending hell for someone. If your goal is to make a friend then keep it short. She’s going to hate you if you put her through a date from hell. Remember, the more women you have as friends, the more likely you are going to be confident around woman and who knows, maybe you’re not right for her but she's got friends... I've been on blind dates set up by women I went on a date with...

b. Get her to talk about herself. If she wants to hear your life story, she'll ask. Here's one of my favorites. "If you won a 10 million dollar lottery, what would you do?" If she gives you a bunch of self centered materialistic answers, don't ask her on a second date... You can find out a lot about someone by their answer to this. Stay away from intimate questions, past boy friends... Politics, work, books she's read are ok. (politics & religion are two good ways to find out is someone is compatible with you. I went on a date with a woman I thought I knew pretty well. Thought she was level headed... Then she took a hard right turn and left me in the dust. Knew right then and there we weren’t compatible) the deal is, YOU are trying to find out if you want to ask HER out again. You are not trying to make her your girlfriend.

c. Second date. (and don't be hurt if you don’t get a second date. Be sure to leave her a way to say "no" without hurting your feelings. Don't play hurt puppy if she says no.) Can last a little longer. Dinner. Not romantic. Not expensive. You are not trying to buy her. Still keep it light. You can ask some family questions but don't dig too deep. She'll probably have more questions for you. Answer truthfully. Again, don't make this a big date deal.

d. Third date. (I took a lot of women on 1st dates. Less than a third made it to second dates. Only a handful made it to 3rd dates. Only two did I have committed relationships with. Last one I married) Best third date... The zoo. It is not romantic. That makes it neutral ground. Takes about 2 to 3 hours to walk around and see all the animals. Gives you both some time to spend with each other. Depending on how everything is going, you both might discuss intimate details of past relationships and family issues. And might not. Take it easy. You might be very attracted to someone the first time you see them, but it takes time to build a relationship...

If she's goes on a 3rd date, it means that she's interested in seeing where this will lead. Doesn't mean she loves you with all her heart yet... Doesn't mean she's ready to get intimate.

When to kiss? When to get physical. For all people it is different. If you haven't held hands, you shouldn't expect a kiss. If a woman was ready to do anything more than hold hands on the 3rd date, I dropped her. If she was throwing herself at me I made tracks. Desperate people latch onto the 1st thing that comes their way. I wanted to date women who were willing to analyze me as a right choice & ensure the relationship would last. I figured if a woman was ready to hop into the sack with me before she knew me, then she was willing to do that with someone else too. And in this day and age of STDs that can kill you, you have to remember, you're having sex with everyone they've ever had sex with...

Remember, a nice guy doesn't force a woman to like him. Doesn't force her to get physical.
Doesn't force her to be a ***** to get rid of him.

Don't be desperate. Women don't want desperate men. They want confident men. They want to believe you chose them over all other women that you could have had... That is why they date guys who treat them poorly. They mistake indifference for confidence...

Start making friends. Don't feel hurt if you get rejected. You can only get hurt if you set your expectations too high.

I spend years and years waiting for someone to save me. Someone to fix me. I was extremly shy with women and so afraid of rejection. I figured out no one wants to work that hard. Had to fix myself. Said screw it, and changed my expectations to making friends. In one year I asked out more women than I did in ten years. I stopped worrying about be rejected & grew confident that I would find a good woman. Had one really bad relationship, one that was mostly good and I learned a lot about what I really wanted, third one was magic.

Took three years of dating to find the woman I wanted to marry.

Been married 10 years.

Good luck out there. Take your time and don't be afraid to ask women out.

Answer 2

Getting a prostitute is not only illegal but it's dangerous! You could get an STD even if your wearing a condom. So this is not a healthy way to start your sexual life. You can always try to over come your shyness, maybe go to some parties and meet with some girls, I think the best way to start is to take it slow. Hey and you never know, you might find a girl that is just as shy as you, start by saying "Hi, how are you?" and go from there. Just be confident and you'll go far! Good Luck.

Answer 3

I am also a male who had no sexual relations with a woman until the wedding night of the day I was first married. I have never regretted it. My wife can now trust me fully, because if I didn't do it before marriage, I'm certainly not after. You will regret going to a prostitute, because if you do meet someone you wish to marry & she wants the same, you will always feel you are keeping something from her, and if she does find out after, good bye trust. There must be some good & nice reason why you have chosen to abstain from sex. I commend you for that & please give this prostitute thing a lot of careful thought. If peers are pressuring you to have sex anyway you can, then tell you have decided not to for health reasons, which is another good reason for staying the way you are. I don't know you, but I will pray for you that you make a decision you can live with the rest of your life. Good luck !

Answer 4

There is NOTHING wrong with your sex life.
I am a virgin 20 female. I do have a boyfriend who respects my decision to stay that way till marriage. I know males who lost their virginity to a a prostitute and regret it. I am shy as well, but when I met my boyfriend one day (a friend of a friend) it took time but he is the only one I have every thought to have sex with anyone but him. I dream about being his WIFE and making love with him as my husband. I would wait until I found the right girl (and you WILL meet her when you are NOT looking) and when the time is right you will know because will not have ANY DOUBTS about it. Usually that is one your honeymoon. And by the way, you are a stronger person in the long run if you do wait.

Answer 5

I really don't recommend paying a prostitute for your first time. I would think if you've waited this long it's partially because you wanted your first to be special. A prostitute doesn't care about you or your first experience. They just want to get paid. I would suggest waiting until you are in a relationship before you have sex. Besides you are much more at risk of catching an STD with a prostitute...

Answer 6

Do you really want to go thru the rest of your life knowing that you had to pay to lose your virginity? The first sexual experiance should always be special, with someone you care for, not to be with some woman who doesnt even care what your name is as long as you have the money. Be patient, the right girl will come along and then you will be happy you waited.

Answer 7

Once you get a taste of sex, it might get addictive but I don't think going to a prostitute will...... I can sort of understand you not wanting to fumble on your first time but even guys will remember it so don't so something you are going to regret. If you are ok with always having the memory of having to pay for your first sexual experience then go for it. Otherwise, wait until you meet someone you really like.... of course, the first time you have sex is usually a train wreck anyway.

Answer 8

If your a virgin i think that you are starting off wit to much! Remember prostitutes do these type of things for a living so they are pretty advanced! and you are just a starter at 24? That's a good thing but maybe you should just wait for Mrs. Right! Those nasty bitches carry all types of germs! All i can honestly say is be careful what you wish for........You just might get it!

Answer 9

Go to a bar and find a girl. Don't sweat it if you get shot down alot just keep on trying and eventually you will find a girl that is in to you or will tolerate you. Or you can find an ugly girl they have 'giners too and I'm sure you can try the equipment out and see what it's like. Then after you get a little confidence in your stroke you can find a hottie. Just give it a while if you're not down with the ugly love and you'll eventually find a girl that's down.

Answer 10

Do NOT lose it with a prostitute. It should be special the first time...do u always want to rememeber losing it with someone u paid for sex? Focus more on finding a girlfriend...theres nothing wrong with being a virgin!

Answer 11

Let me tell you that if you ever hope to get a g/f don't ever say you have been with a prostitute.. You will never get one if you do.. That's just sick and gross.. unless your into STD's. You are to shy for a g/f but not to shy to pick up a prostitute??
I feel sorry for you!