A good guy friend and I have been FWB on and off for a few years. It had been a while since we last did anything or even saw each other until this past weekend. I had feelings for him before when we first started hanging out and having sex, but I was too afraid to say anything because I didn't want to freak him out. Now that something happend between us again those feelings are coming back. I want to say something to him, but I don't know how. I'm afraid he may feel uncomfortable around me if I tell him how I feel and I really don't want that to happen. There are times I think he feels the same way just by little things he does. For example, this past weekend me, him, and a bunch of our friends went out to dinner and when we were getting ready to leave he started to massage my shoulders. I don't think if he saw me just as a FWB he would do something like that, right? Maybe it's just wishful thinking. Please give me some advise. Thanks a bunch!!
2007-02-28 05:21:45 · 12 answers · asked by dolfingrrl928 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had moved away and we both got into relationships which is why we hadn't seen each other or done anything in a while.
2007-02-28 05:24:55 · update #1
well you need to talk to him, explain that though your situation worked out before and you really liked it that now you would like to be exclusive and see where things might go. He should appreciated you being honest. If not you know what he was after and you can decide from there what you want to do
2007-02-28 05:26:47 · answer #1 · answered by cowgrl3611 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
does he hold ur hand in front of ur frndz???
the other day i saw my college's security gaurd giving massage to this lady... it means nothing... he was only being helpfull and caring nothing more......
sweet gestures r when he doesnt touch u but u still feel like his gf
when he says stuff that makes u think tht u r a woman not his sex partner... when u feel like an intelligent smart lady next to him in public... someone he can put his arm around in public....
fWB is a veryyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy stupid relationship to be in seriously/.
men tend to pull away from women after ******* her... but then again men r confusing u never know .... give it time find someone else.. cut him out.. dont give him ur time.. become unavilable for anything ( even chilling at movies) he will miss u ( bcuz u r frndz) but u need to make him fall for u not jsut come back n be ur FWB again....plz get out of this emotionally confusing trap
2007-02-28 05:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by ninjagal3000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's why you don't have FWBS. Especially with females... You will always get hurt because he will NEVER be with you.Well.. It always turns out this way... Months or even years go by and you develop strong feelings for him until one day you come to your senses and realize that it's not going anywhere... Then he finds an interest in you when you're already inlove with someone else. Why do men do that ... I don't know.
2007-02-28 05:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by NicOOd 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The entire idea of FWB was created by men who don't want to commit to the women who are foolish enough to continue to have sex with them. You've fallen into that trap, hon, and now your only options are to end it completely (he might realize that it was you he was interested in, but don't hold your breath) or to confront him - and expect him to be uncomfortable with the idea that you have suddenly become a 'real' person for him.
2007-02-28 05:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by dingobluefoot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe the rubbing your shoulders, he was filing a claim for "benefits". If you want to know if it is more....simply remove the benefits. If you can be friends first and then it leads to a relationship, the benefits part will come naturally. However, if you can't be friends without the benefits, it is based soley on sex.
Good luck and I hope you are using protection
2007-02-28 05:26:44 · answer #5 · answered by ldlivengood 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it all just depends on the you and the guy. if you both think you want it to become something more than it is, then maybe it will. but since it is already a friends with benefits relationship, then he may not want to commit to anything more serious. i think you should get him alone and talk to him about it...
2007-02-28 05:30:28 · answer #6 · answered by little missy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not unless you see each other on regular basis and away from sex...as the way you talked about your relationship, you guys didn't contact each other for some time....
Must interact as friends...not just sexual...
2007-02-28 05:27:26 · answer #7 · answered by Ariana 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If there are feelings there ofcourse they can, Depending on how strong the feeling is you can eather ask him about it openly or if its a love struck 100% need him you can durring your beinfit sessions say you love him but I sugjest the first one
2007-02-28 05:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by ofvolvoblood 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would just tell him you have feelings. If it makes him uncomfortable or he freaks out - his loss, and YOUR gain. At least you will know and not have to wonder all the time.
2007-02-28 05:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by mo_luv22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it will turn into a disater. believe i tried it and it got all around to everyone and it's just not good. Dont do it.
2007-02-28 05:24:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋